What Every Couple Can Do To Prevent Career Issues From Threatening Your Relationship

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What To Do When Career Issues Threaten Your Relationship
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Being in a romantic relationship is not all milk and honey. You and your partner will have to undergo several trials, and the both of you will face some obstacles and challenges as you go on your way looking for bliss.

One pertinent relationship problem that couples encounter is caused by career issues and a lack of work-life balance.

It has been a norm in society that the breadwinner of the family or a relationship should be the man. But what if that is not the case? What if the woman is the one working while the man stays in the house? Or, another scenario is the woman has a higher position in the career ladder than the man.

This kind of predicament most often than not causes issues that most relationship advice can't tackle.

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The ever-prideful man will not just take this situation lying down. He will stand up and fight though he knows he is not on the side of justice. The man in this situation will foster lingering insecurities and this builds up to a point where he can't take it anymore and explode.

This is where the problem starts and the dawn of a bad relationship rises.

It may seem that the only way to stop this is for the woman to give up her career and let the man take his rightful responsibility. But do not rush into doing it because there are other things you can do to save your relationship without having to give up your career.

First and foremost, do not let your guy partner feel that he is a useless person. Let him feel that he is still very important and that you can't continue doing what you are doing if he is not around.

In other words, it is crucial to boost his ego and morale every once in a while. Communication is also key in this situation.

Another way you can do this is to never lose time for him. If you used to spend time with him 4 hours a day, then you must maintain it or even lengthen the duration.

You do not want him to feel that you are more focused on your work than on him. Remember, this man is very sensitive in these kinds of situations.

Last but not the least, never blame your partner for what has happened to him or for any problems in your relationship. You need to be the more mature person in this situation and you need to understand him and become his support through this crisis in his life.

What do you do if your career is taking up a big chunk of your time?

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As a career-oriented person, you sometimes tend to give more attention to your work more than anything else. Sometimes, it even reaches to a point wherein you neglect your relationship as well as your partner.

If this kind of situation goes on, there is no doubt that one day the news will hit you in the face that your relationship has already crumbled to nothingness.

This is what usually happens to those who try to juggle career and romantic relationships without knowing anything about management. If you want to succeed in your career, and as well with your relationship, it is of utmost importance that you give equal attention to both these aspects of your life.

The best way to do this is to learn how to manage your time.

Time management is the key to having a successful loving relationship as well as a career. Give equal time to your relationship and your career, and if you are going through a particularly busy time at work then talk to your partner and explain the situation and ask for his support at this time. Do not let one of them surpass the other.

Relationship issues usually also spring up when you give more attention to your career over your relationship. Even though it is not of utmost importance, you still are focused on your work. This should not be the case.

You should learn how to assess and how to prioritize the situations you are in. If you think that is more necessary to give attention to your relationship then do something about it. If you think that work needs to be prioritized for now, then by all means do so. It is all about balancing and prioritizing.

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Christina Young (The Healing Heart Coach) is a coach who helps women through the pain of relationship challenges, divorce and life after divorce. She's the author of two books, has been on radio in the UK and USA, and interviewed on TV.

This article was originally published at Christina Young. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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