6 Easy Steps To Break A Bad Habit — Fast!

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How To Break A Bad Habit Fast

How many times have you had a good intention to change a bad habit for the better?

You buy the latest fitness DVD, purchase a bulk load of nicotine patches, promise yourself only one glass of wine — which turns into a bottle, or fall into a guilty pit of despair after you’ve eaten a piece of cake... Which followed the piece before that!

It's not easy learning how to break a bad habit.

Did you know you only have to repeat a behavior for up to 21 days for a habit to form in the subconscious mind?

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You create habits and behaviors from social circles like your childhood, your parents or guardians, and the media (which is "subliminal stimuli") subconsciously mimicking what has been imprinted in your brain by the experiences you have.

A habit is formed by the unconscious mind, which creates neural pathways as a result of repetition.

It took me many years to change my thinking about smoking, chocolate, and wine. I used to have a glass of wine every night during the week.

I smoked on my way to work, and on the way home (definitely a habit more than an addiction). I used chocolate as an emotional prop after a stressful day at work, and I couldn’t last more than three months in the gym!

I got so bored!

What stops us from breaking a bad habit?

When we experience pain — emotional or physical — we naturally move away from it into pleasure.

There have been many studies and research into what stops people from successfully completing a goal they set out to do. And the result is that if you're forcing yourself into a lifestyle that does not resonate or that you enjoy, it won’t last!

There has to be a real desire to implement change, and so many people fail at new regimes because they do not congruently want the change.

You may have heard someone say in the past: "Part of me wants this, and the other half doesn’t." That's absolutely right.

Unless you can bring the two consciously together, you may be setting yourself up to fail before you’ve even started.

Have you struggled in the past to kick a negative habit?

Do you keep failing at your desired outcome and got frustrated, upset, and cried?

There are several reasons for this:

  • Limiting beliefs, such as, "I can’t do that," "I’m no good," and "I always fail."
  • Subconscious fears, like the fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of losing someone, and fear of what other people might think.
  • Being physically or mentally addicted to something.

If you're lazy or constantly making excuses as to why you can’t do something, there will be an unconscious fear or limiting belief that you are unlikely to be aware of.

Procrastination is a great example. If you're always putting something off, it could be the thought in your mind that the task is too big.

You don’t understand how to do it. You believe you'll fail. Some people are so attached to their beliefs, they live a life of misery because of it.

The good news is that if habits can be formed, they can also be changed and eliminated completely!

But, there are a few rules...

  • You have to congruently want the change.
  • You have to enjoy the process of doing it and make sure it’s not "stressful."
  • You have to believe you can do it.
  • Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
  • Celebrate, even when it doesn’t quite go the way you want it to.

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Have you ever noticed the stress that is related to mainstream dieting? They are all built on foundations of failure.

For example:

  • You're asked to eliminate the things you love, resulting in you wanting it more and overeating the next time you have it.
  • You feel hungry — adding stress to the body — and for emotional eaters, a feeling of emptiness.
  • You're expected to make a lifestyle change overnight, not giving the unconscious mind a chance to adjust. This is why most people give up after a week. As a result, you end up feeling worse than you did before because you feel like you’ve failed.
  • Emotional triggers are not addressed, so if you associate food with emotion, you will find it very hard to fight those emotional patterns of behavior.
  • You're put on a pedestal if you’re successful, bringing competitiveness into the process, leaving others feeling disappointed in themselves if they haven’t lost a pound in a week.

People put a lot of pressure on themselves when they want to let go of a habit that no longer serves them.

Don’t beat yourself up if the first few weeks are tough. Remember that you need time to adjust.

Here are 6 simple steps that will help you break a bad habit.

1. Avoid taking big, massive steps.

Break them down into tiny manageable steps so your unconscious mind can adjust to the change.

If your habit is attached to something (like coffee, alcohol, or cigarettes), eliminate the trigger first to help abolish the craving.

2. Have your outcome in mind.

What do you want to achieve from letting go of this habit?

Write it out, visualize what it will be like when you get there, and keep reminding yourself why you’re doing it.

3. Avoid seeing the process as strange or out of the norm.

When you congratulate yourself for doing something "right" for a whole week, the unconscious mind thinks it’s doing something abnormal and will attempt to revert you back to the previous patterns of behavior (a relapse).

4. Try not to apply too much pressure on yourself to achieve something life-changing straight away.

Success is full of twists and turns.

Like an airplane going off course, it always reaches its destination eventually.

5. Let go of any feelings of guilt if you go off track on the odd occasion.

It is almost indefinite that you will, but it’s important that you forgive yourself and keep going.

6. Be aware of your limiting beliefs and fears.

If you keep failing at something, try to find out what's keeping you from being successful.

If you would like help in dissolving any detrimental habits or would like to uncover what is sabotaging your success get in touch.

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Caroline Rushforth is a certified NLP Coach and life coach with over 10 years' experience helping super-caring women who are overwhelmed with worry, negative thoughts, and low self-esteem. She offers a free 30-minute consultation via Zoom or Skype. Send her an email at

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