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Sex is more important than you realize...
By Carla Tara — Written on Mar 16, 2018
Great sex, when it's honest and loving, is good for you. And the benefits of sex extend beyond your love life, improving your health and your soul, too.
There is something amazing that happens to each person physically during mutually-caring foreplay and lovemaking, and the benefits are wonderful.
Our bodies are designed to react well to sexual engagement. In fact, caressing and kissing your lover activates pleasure centers in the brain of both of you. Lovemaking can even help your body shift gears from stress to pleasure. And you end up breathing deeper, which sends extra oxygen to all your cells, enriching your blood.
Your heart rate goes up and your circulation increases, nourishing your organs and your skin. You can observe that your skin glows and looks better — even than when you use expensive creams to make it look good!
Endorphins — the natural “feel-good” hormones — flood your system, elevate your mood and have a lasting effect on it as well, which helps more than just your love life.
You'll also experience waves of pleasure that melt your stress away.
Oxytocin, the “love hormone,” spikes, bathing you in a warm, fuzzy feeling as you bond during (and after) great sex. Your biology wants you to relax into a blissful surrender to the power of your sexual energy as it unites you in love.
When your sex drive is high, your body produces more of the health-promoting hormones like progesterone, testosterone, and estrogen, which prevent weight gain, chronic fatigue, and stress. This is important for several reasons. Sexual engagement can help keep your stress levels within a manageable range. When your stress levels get high, it can cause physical and mental problems with your health.
In his book, When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress, Dr. Gabor Maté goes beyond the physical causes of sickness to include emotional/spiritual factors that make the body produce debilitating illnesses. Among these are the effects of high-stress on the body.
And a perfect, natural outlet for stress happens to be sex. Sex can be used for pleasure, making babies, to deepen your connection with your lover, and to improve your health. It can also to empower your desires. Imagine putting the power of sex behind something you desire greatly. It's definitely more powerful than just affirmations in words!
Sexual energy is one of the most healing and empowering energies available to humans.
In fact, sexual energy is the highest form of transmutable energy. You can transmute and direct this powerful energy anywhere in your body to achieve better health, to get the job you want, to attract life partners, and more.
According to Napoleon Hill, the famous author of Think and Grow Rich, the human mind responds primarily to ten stimuli with high rates of vibration; the desire for sexual expression is on the top of his list.
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Good sex increases physical, emotional and spiritual health.
Sexual energy is a powerful force that, when used consciously, can be a great catalyst for spiritual growth and healing on all levels.
Emotional intimacy is an instinctive desire to bond with a lover, to feel comfort, and to be known. Emotional intimacy comes from sharing feelings, from being vulnerable. By caring, you reinforce each other’s attractiveness and make each other feel special, and most importantly you create trust.
Trust is important to create intimacy — a space where you can express yourself without fear.
Therefore, intimacy involves a desire to let go of fear.
The most common fears are:
- Fear of losing control.
- Fear of not performing.
- Fear of taking too long to have an orgasm.
- Fear of speaking your needs.
- Fear of pain, abandonment, or emotional harm.6. Fear of losing yourself in a lover.
- Fear of getting obsessed or overly attached to a lover.
Emotional intimacy is a powerful basis from which to create good sex, and it’s an important predictor of the depth and the length of loving relationships.
Health and spiritual growth include slowing down, tuning into your inner body and feel what you feel, and then build up the courage to express what you feel. Sometimes It requires letting go of repressed anger and hostilities before having sex.
Lovemaking is also about generosity and giving pleasure the other. It’s not just about you and your pleasure, important as that is. I’m inviting you to look at your sexual experience with a more complete look. If you are willing to do that, you will attract, transform or maintain a fulfilling relationship you desire while looking youthful as you age.
Carla Tara is a relationship coach and the first Tantrika in her state of New York, as well being a psychotherapist and intimacy counselor. She works with people through her "Sacred Sexuality" teaching, helping them harness their energy for a healthy, happy lifestyle.
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