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What To Say To Yourself When You Feel Completely & Utterly Worthless

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How To Love Yourself & Improve Low Self-Esteem With Positive Daily Affirmations

When you're feeling down on yourself, whether it's due to personal problems or circumstances beyond your control, it's hard to know that things will get better. It all too easy to forget how to love yourself throughout the process and let negative self-talk take over, which is why saying daily, positive affirmations can help you improve your self-esteem.

The truth is life isn't always fair. Unfortunately, there may be times when you feel everything in your life is going wrong no matter what you do or how hard you try to change it.

You'll lose loved ones and you'll get your heart stomped on at some point, whether it's by a friend or partner. You will have your feelings hurt by situations that happen and words spoken by others, and you can end up with low-self esteem.

I've been there and feel your pain. It gets better, I promise you that. I know it doesn't feel like it right now — because we always want things to be instant — but life in and of itself is a daily process.

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I know it can be hard to be positive because you're afraid everything's going to go badly. I get it. Many of us are so hard on ourselves, whether it be as a parent or an employee, that we never give ourselves the boost or uplift we desperately need to improve our self-esteem.

However, there's enough negativity, selfishness, greed and more in this world to last all of us a lifetime, so why make it worse by feeding into our instincts to be down on ourselves?

Let that be and love yourself for once.

To help you learn how to love yourself fully, here are 5 daily mantras and positive words of affirmation to play on repeat so often you'll finally believe them even during your worst moments.

1. "You're beautiful."

Because let's face it ... you are! You don't need anyone else to tell you that for it to be true. You are the only person who needs to know it and believe it. This one way to improve self-esteem.

Maybe you don't feel it right now, but if you continue saying this to yourself every day, you will.

2. "You're worth it."

You should never put your worth in someone else's hands. Ever. It's almost like asking someone to treat you other than what you're truly worth.

We are all unique in one way or another, and you need to own it by knowing you're worthy of good things and not settling for anything less.

Want to know how to build self-esteem? Start with your opinion of yourself.

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3. "Don't give up."

There were times when I wanted to give up. Those times were dreadful. Every second felt like a day and every minute felt like a week.

But know this: If you don't give up, you'll begin to experience life in such an amazing and different way. This is one step of self care that is hard to visualize.

Never give up!

4. "This is temporary."

I know, I know ... how many times have you heard, "This too shall pass"? Granted, whoever said it was right, but still, it's not what you want to hear or need to hear at the moment. Just know that every feeling and emotion you experience is temporary and the bad feelings will dissipate.

Think of it like this: Remember a time when you were having the time of your life and thinking to yourself, "I don't ever want this night to end." Unfortunately, as much as you want it to continue, it ends because you have this thing called life to tend to and all that it entails.

So, if all good things come to an end, the bad stuff has to come to an end as well, right? It will.

5. "What people say is a reflection of them, not me."

There are good and bad people in this world, and that's a fact. What anyone says to you or does to you does not reflect who you are or who your character is. Only you have the power to define yourself.

Never leave it up to another person to define you. You get one life to live, and you deserve the best life one can have. You deserve a little more kindness and a lot less negativity in your life.

One of the best things to hold onto in your darkest hour is that you don't have to live the same day twice.

Rid yourself of the negative energy and embrace the gift of life. Know you're beautiful and amazing and that anyone is lucky to be around you.

Don't get dragged down by the immediate instinct to bash yourself when things aren't going well in life. It's almost an automatic process. But when you replace those automatic thoughts with positive affirmations and loving statements, you will see such a beautiful change in the way you approach yourself and experience different events or situations.

You are beautiful. Never forget that! Your self-esteem will thank you.

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Brittney Lindstrom is a licensed professional counselor and certified rehabilitation counselor.