Why I'll NEVER Apologize For Taking Selfies (And Neither Should You)

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When a recent article went viral claiming that taking selfies excessively is now classified as a new mental disorder, I reacted immediately, feeling personally attacked.

Of course later, we all found out the article is a hoaxBut it begs the question, "Why did people want to believe taking selfies is so bad, an actual disorder? And why did feel so offended by that suggestion? 

Well, what's inselfie? Me, of course. 


And the very idea of the selfie, at its core, is the person. Selfies aren't about the landscapes, waterfalls, or Empire State building in the background; they're about the person standing front and center in each photo. 

Selfies are about taking control of one's history and moments in the NOW — about expressing our love for ourselves and the self-confidence we have.

With a selfie, I don't need to ask someone else to take my picture when I'm on the 102nd floor of the Empire State Building. I can take my own picture, my selfie, and just keep it as a personal picture of MY moment standing high in the sky. Or, I can post it instantly on social media and share it with the people I care about. Both decisions are extremely normal and it's great to have them under my control. It's gives me and everyone else taking selfies the self-confidence to express ourselves and our lives the way we want to.

Recording these moments of my lifeor sharing them immediately in time with othersis HUMAN and natural. Historically, people have always wanted to record their lives and tried, dating back to the first cave drawings.

Also, what is the NOW all about? It's finding a way to stay in the present.

Well, selfies are the best thing to ever come along that helps individuals give themselves a present to help remember "the present"! So, don't ever dare tell me that selfies indicate mental illness! I will hate you and never, ever, invite you to stand in any of my selfies again. 


Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, internationally known Positive Psychologist, Author, Playwright and Filmmaker, is the creator of The Enchanted Self ®, a positive psychology method for happiness. Dr. Barbara can be found on the web, interviewed, writing articles and posting video 'TED' style talks on Happiness, Positive Psychology, Relationships and Parenting. Check out her new website all about selfies as the new film genre and her films aCINECOSMOS.

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