If You Want More From The Relationship, Say Something

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By Kait MacKinnon

Life is short. Without a doubt, you’ve heard that before.

It’s both the shortest and the longest thing you will ever do. So why not spend it with someone you love?

Too often, we’re afraid to be honest. We’re afraid to tell people how we feel. We’re afraid of the outcome.

But what if we weren’t afraid? What if we left behind the fear of rejection?

The fear of ruining a friendship. The fear of the future.

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Why does it matter if you don’t know where you’re going in life? Why should that affect who you’re deciding to spend your time with?

It shouldn’t matter that you might be right where you are now a year from now, or maybe you’ll be in San Francisco, or halfway around the world.

If you know that you want that certain someone, you can adjust your plans. You can bring them along or you can reroute.

It doesn’t matter because all that matters is the person that you love.

Focus on what’s in front of you right now. See that girl or boy? Do you love them? Do you want to be with them?

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Think about all of the reasons why you love them. Think of all the reasons why they’re worth being with — the reasons why you should be with them.

If the pros outweigh the cons, then it’s time to say something. Say something now before it’s too late and you can’t. Quit worrying about rejection. The most they can do is say they don’t feel the same way.

Quit worrying about ruining a friendship that seemed perfectly fine the way it was. If you want to be with them, then it wasn’t a “perfectly fine” friendship.

Making your move and being rejected will hurt a lot less than continuing to only be friends with them while watching them with other people and then having to pretend you’re okay with it.

Quit worrying about your future and how well or how not-so-well they might fit in with it.

If they’re important to you, if you care about them, if you love them, you can rearrange your future plans to accommodate them.

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Trust me, more people than you’d believe are willing to try to make it work. If you want to be with someone, then put yourself out there, no matter how scary it may be.

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Quit making excuses for yourself. Every reason that you can think of to not be with someone you love, forget them.

If you love someone, then do something about it.

Say something. Tell them. Show them. Do anything. Just do something. Make it happen.

Have faith. Take that leap. Trust that things will work out exactly the way they’re supposed to.

Enough with the worry that you’ve fallen in love with someone you shouldn’t have fallen in love with. Everything happens for a reason.

Don’t ignore “The One” because you believe that you shouldn’t be feeling that way. Go get ‘em, tiger.

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Kait MacKinnon is a writer who focuses on relationships, love, and mental health topics. Her work has been featured on Huffington Post, Elite Daily, and Thought Catalog.

This article was originally published at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.