9 Signs Of Unspoken Mutual Attraction Between Two People

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Mutual attraction is this sort of magnetic feeling that's unlike anything else.

When there's a mutual attraction between two people, the chemistry is so natural the first time the two of you meet.

Mutual attraction is essentially when you and another person both are attracted to each other physically and emotionally. Unspoken attraction is when there is no need to tell each other that you are attracted to them. 

According to Love and Cosmic Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan, there is an innate ability to sense this kind of attraction because biologically, "it ensures the survival of the species and drives the urge for a sexual encounter. In ancient times, this kept the population growing."

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It's only natural to want to know if there is a mutual attraction between you and the person you're going out with. If you're paying attention to the verbal and physical cues, you can get a sense if the other person is attracted to you. 

So what are the signs of mutual attraction and how do you know if you have a mutual connection with someone?

1. There's reciprocation in conversation.

If the conversation isn't one-sided and you aren't the only person asking the questions, this is a good sign your date is mutually attracted to you. 

According to experts, reciprocity in relationships is valuable in intimate relationships. If they are attracted to you, they will want to know more about you and ask you questions.

To test this sign of mutual attraction, try to notice how many times you ask questions vs. them and if the conversation seems to flow naturally. If the conversation seems even, that's a good sign. 

2. There's something electrifying in the eye contact. 

You can sense mutual attraction by the way someone looks at you," says Ryan.

Mutual attraction is all about sexual chemistry, which is often marked by prolonged eye contact.

"You can feel that magnetism without saying a single word," Ryan explains. "It feels like electricity that jumps between you as you touch, or even look longingly at each other." 

The two of you might look at each other, then away and then back — and as you start getting more comfortable with each other the eye contact, is even more intense. 

If someone is attracted to you they will keep their eyes on you whether they realize it or not, so make sure to notice if there's a lot of eye contact during conversation. 

3. You are attracted to each other's smell.

There's something about a person's scent that can make us even more attracted to them. This is in large part thanks to pheromones, which are like chemical messages that our bodies give off that give us a certain scent. 

You can spot this out if he or she points out that you smell good or if they aren't afraid to get closer to you because you smell good to them. See if you catch them sniffing or taking deep breathes through their nose. 

4. You face each other when talking.

Body language is very important in decoding unspoken mutual attraction. 

If a mutual attraction is there, both people typically present open body language, such as angling their body towards the other person and using frequent light touches, without anyone feeling uncomfortable.

5. There's physical contact.

A major sign of unspoken mutual attraction between two people is close physical proximity and engaging in physical touch. There might be a lot of sexual tension and the two of you will laugh a lot and give each other a slight touch on the arm, back, shoulder, or leg.

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6. You and your date can't stop smiling. 

A good sign of unspoken attraction is when the two of you can't stop smiling when looking at each other.

That's because of how attractive and appealing you are to one another. 

7. They mirror your behavior when talking.

According to studies, the number one sign of unspoken mutual attraction is mimicking behaviors such as mirroring the other person's posture, initiating conversation, making constant eye contact, nodding, smiling, and laughing at whatever the other person is saying. 

For example, you might notice your date takes a sip of their drink at the same time you do, or touches their hair when you do.

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If these mirroring behaviors and gestures are reciprocated then that's a good sign of mutual attraction. 

Make sure to match their moves if you want to give them hints you like them.

8. You check each other out.

There's nothing more that says 'I like you' than noticeably checking each other out. This is an undeniable unspoken rule of attraction because if a person can't help but glance up and down at you, that means they are attracted to not just your face but your whole body as well. 

Make sure to see if your date's eyes glance over at your body and check you out of the corner of your eye.

9. You both find things to laugh about.

If you are having a conversation with a date and it's going really well, you might find yourself and your date laughing. 

Laughing, including small giggles, smiles, and even big laughs is a big sign of mutual attraction.

Don't confuse mutual attraction with relationship compatibility.

"Today sexual chemistry with someone is a heck of a lot of fun. But this type of magnetic draw rarely turns into a long-term relationship or lasting love," warns Ryan. "It's hot, it's sexy, it's all-consuming. But it's not a sign of compatibility beyond the bedroom or the ability to commit to lasting love and a supportive, enduring relationship."

However, that shouldn't deter you from exploring the mutual attraction.

"If you decide to check it out, just be sure you know your agenda before you get started, so you don't end up disappointed or broken-hearted," Ryan says. 

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Megan Hatch is a writer at YourTango who covers news & entertainment, love & relationships, and internet culture. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram.