What Does Simp Mean? The Slang Meaning & Why It's Become A TikTok Trend

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What Does Simp Mean? Slang Definition & Meanings
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TikTok has done it again. It has created a whole new word to enter into our vocabulary so seamlessly, it’s like we were taught the word “simp” when we were still learning to speak.

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This one seems to confuse even the Gen Z-ers who use this term in a range of contexts. In fact, given that this word is an insult for some, and for others it is a compliment to the highest degree, how you define the word simp might actually tell you more about yourself than the word. 

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Social media users are accusing each other of simping, proudly proclaiming their status as CEO of Simps, falling at the feet of someone who might make them simp, and desperately trying to avoid entering Simp Nation.

What does it mean to simp? And do we want to be doing it? 

What does simp mean?

To put it "simp"-ly, simp is anyone or anything related to going over the top for the person they like.

The word is synonymous with being soft or overly sympathetic, and is typically directed by straight men towards other straight men who might dare to be affectionate to a woman

Simp can be a noun or a verb. As a noun, it refers to a person who is excessively cheesy or caring for their crush. As a verb, it refers to the act of simping itself. 

Using simp as a noun

“Did you see Jake commented a heart on Jesy’s Instagram?”

“Yeah, he is such a simp.”

Using simp as a verb

“Yo, Ashley is so your type.”

“Yeah, I might have to simp.”

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How is the word simp used?

Being a simp is certainly not a bad thing. Believe it or not, some people actually like guys to treat them with kindness and adoration, instead of acting disinterested and ignoring their texts.

But since modern misogyny has synonymized things girls enjoy with embarrassment and shame, simp is often used as an insult. 

It doesn’t take much to be accused of being a simp. Any guy who has ever posted a cute photo of his girlfriend or didn’t come to boys' night because it was her birthday, has probably had his friend mercilessly mock him for being a simp.

I’ve even heard one man call another a simp because he reached back to hold the door open for me as I entered a cafe behind him. Keep in mind both of these men were strangers to me and would certainly not be the object of my affection anytime soon.

The most recent reincarnation and the most prolific use of the word simp comes from TikTok, thanks to a trend of videos that show guys doing nice things for the girls they have a crush on dubbed over with a sound or text that says, “Welcome to simp nation.” 

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The trend is a mixture of self-depreciation and accusation. Some are mocking the things they’ve done for girls, while others are calling out the behavior of friends and strangers. 

There is, of course, something to be said for drawing attention to ingenuine displays of affection. I can definitely support a trend that calls out guys who believe being nice or “simping” will get them a girl, but, unsurprisingly, these simp videos are mostly used to mock women or “unmanly” men than they are to defend them. 

Where did the word simp come from?

Some people claim the word is derived from the 20th-century term “simpleton,” but simp has become so detached from this original meaning that this is no longer a relevant comparison.

The word has also appeared in rap lyrics and other slang for longer than TikTok has existed. West Coast rapper Too Short was using the word in his lyrics as far back as 1985. 

The song “Sippin’ On Some Syrup” by Three 6 Mafia, which was released in 2000 and opens with the line, “I’m trill working the wheel, a pimp, not a simp.” As an antonym of the word pimp, simp has become a term that, at its core, refers to respecting women which is, of course, unmanly, effeminate, and just all-around terrible. Note the sarcasm.

It’s no surprise then that the term had a resurgence on forums used by men’s rights activists in the 2010s.

Fearful that feminism is weakening masculinity, these forum users align “simping” with surrendering patriarchal power. And while TikTok users probably don’t mean for the term to be as extreme as this, it is worth questioning what is so bad about a guy who wants to impress a woman.

Is it completely bizarre to think that maybe simping over a girl is what the guy wants to do? Does doing so make him any less of a man?

And given that all feminists actually want is for women to be treated with the same level of respect as men are, maybe we should all try being simps more often. 

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