Heartbreak

When (And How) To Stop Texting Someone

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Sometimes he just doesn't want you back so you have to let him go and stop texting him.

If he doesn't put you first and really cherish being with you and instead sees you as something he can fool around with or dispose of, means that he doesn't care about you to the same extent you care about him.

It can be hard to accept but you have to realize that you are valuable and you deserve something better than the way your ex treated you.

He does not deserve to have you. So, even though it's hard to move on, you need to try because there is someone out there that will see you as the center of their world. They will cherish every moment they are with you and they will miss you when you are not around.

Everyone deserves love, and you will find it. He's just not the right one for you.

Should I stop texting him?

If you constantly are texting him without a response, you may need to take the harsh hint that he is not coming back.

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If you need to cry, let it out. But only let yourself cry and wallow for so long because you don't want to get trapped in that spiral of depression and sadness.

I promise the world is not as bleak as you may be feeling it is right now. So, let yourself have these sad feelings for a little bit, but don't let your depression consume your whole life. Let yourself have fun and accept that your relationship is over. You can always remember the special times you have had with your ex, but you don't need to wait for them to come to their senses because they most likely won't.

When you think you are ready, even if you aren't, pick yourself up and start living again. Realize they don't deserve to have you be upset over losing them. That gives them too much power when they did not want you.

Go out, do things, and start taking your life back. Sometimes, just going to the store or getting out of bed is a monumental feat. So, celebrate the little wins.

You deserve more and there will be someone that will come and treat you like you should. They will see you for your whole potential and love you no matter what. They will never give you up because they will realize that you are the best thing that has happened to them.

Once you realize that he is not going to answer your text, you can start moving on with your life. Also, there are some apps that you can download to help you do the hard things like delete photos while forcing you to stop texting them.

These methods will help you grow and move on to find someone that will make you feel whole. You will have that relationship that is filled with love and it will last forever, it was just not with your ex.

Here are some ways to stop texting him

1. Delete his number from your phone.

Out of sight, out of mind. If you can't delete the number yourself, ask a friend to do the honors.

2. Delete him off your social media.

Constantly seeing him in your feed is too tempting. Block and delete him from all of your socials.

3. Recognize why you want to text your ex.

It is easy to lean into the familiar. When you had a bad day, or got terrible news you want to tell someone that will listen without judgment. Realize that he is no longer your person, and find another listening ear.

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4. Understand why you need to stop texting him.

You will never get over him if you keep the line of communication open. Protect yourself from and further pain — don't send the message.

5. Distract yourself.

Take up that hobby that you put aside for him. Start going to the gym, take a class, get outdoors, or spend time relearning your needs through self-care.

6. Go out with your friends.

Call on your girls for a night out on the town. Get dressed up in your sexiest outfit, and dance the memory of him out of your mind.

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7. Try not to text him when you are drinking.

Put the phone down when you drink. Drunk texts lead to regret.

8. Text a friend instead of your ex.

Feeling lonely? Send a message to one of your good friends for a pick-me-up. He's not the only one that knows how to make you smile.

9. Give yourself time to get over him.

You heart will heal in time. Take it one day at a time. Little by little, you'll stop checking for his missed calls or daily check-ins.

10. Go for a walk.

Nature is a healer. Get outside and take a walk to clear your loud thoughts. Whether around your neighborhood, at the park, or a nature trail — walking allows you to just be in the midst of your journey.

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11. Remember why you broke up in the first place.

Think of the pain and heartache. Remember the needs he refused to meet due to his ego. You didn't deserve that. Count it as par for the course, and move on, gracefully.

12. Try a dating app.

Hear me out. Dating apps can be a fun way to see what's out there in the dating pool. Upload a cute picture and swipe through the prospects to distract yourself.

13. Get lost in a book.

Reading takes you to another place. Find a good audiobook or a paperback. Relax and let your mind enjoy someone else's story.

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14. Don't punish yourself for your breakup so let yourself have fun and do what you would normally do.

Go about your life knowing that you did all you could. Your life is for living. Get out and make new memories with new people.

15. Adopt a pet (or get a plant!) for some companionship.

There are tons of cute pet babies that are waiting for adoption at local shelters. Not ready for that type of commitment? Check into some houseplants that you can care for.

16. Download an app that helps with the no-contact rule.

Don't feel you can stop yourself from reaching out? Let your phone help. Check the appstore for apps that will help keep your fingers from sliding to his contact and sending that message.

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Emily Francos is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture, and relationships.

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