25 Un-Romantic Love Quotes Every Realist Can Understand & Appreciate
Romance just isn't our forte.
Love is difficult to understand. There’s so much that goes into it that the realist (not the pessimist) in you might feel overwhelmed and confused.
If you're a realist — someone who sees the world as it is and prides themselves on their practical philosophies — you just don’t get all of the metaphors and flowery language used when people talk about love.
That’s okay! It doesn’t mean you’ll never understand love, you just need language that works for you and your brain.
Being a realist means your pragmatic. You don’t just trust that everything is going to go off perfectly without a hitch. We’re humans, and we’re destined to make mistakes and have to figure out where to go from there.
The same thing applies to love. You go into relationships with caution, knowing that there is a chance that you’ll end up getting hurt. You see all of the amazing things in your partner, but you also know that they have some sort of power over you, and they can hurt you if they really wanted to.
Sometimes you need things that are stripped of all of that fluffy language, dreamy metaphors, and wordy declarations of love to really be able to understand your feelings. It will also help you understand what love really means for your too.
These unromantic quotes I have for you today were picked with that in mind. These quotes about love are unromantic and realistic, from people that explain what love is and what love feels like to someone like you. Let’s get this practical love train started!
1. There's power and trust.
Love is giving someone the power to destroy you… but trusting them not to. — Anonymous
2. What if you're in love with two?
If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second. — Anonymous
3. Being in love versus love.
In love is for the romantic. Love is for the realist. — Nancy Spain
4. Let them go.
You cannot let go of someone you never really had. And if you had them, you wouldn’t have to let go. — Dr. Gary Funk
5. It's not always rainbows.
Life isn't always romantic. Sometimes it's realistic. — Ezra Fitz
6. I'm going against every fiber of my being.
I loved her against reason, against promise, against peace, against hope, against happiness, against all discouragement that could be. — Charles Dickens
7. Don't wait forever.
I’m just gonna move on. Because waiting for you to step up and tell me you love me has just been exhausting. — Anonymous
8. First loves are special.
The magic of first love is the ignorance that it can never end. — Benjamin Disreal
9. Falling out of love.
I don't know that love chances. People change. Circumstances change. — Nicolas Sparks
10. It's okay to dream.
He was realist enough to know he might never find the life partner he longed for, and dreamer enough not to quit looking. — Eden Winters
11. Getting hurt is expected.
Truth is, everyone is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for — Bob Marley
12. You love what you know.
The realist always falls in love with a girl he has grown up with, the romantic with a girl from ‘off somewhere. — Robert Frost
13. Fall in love with you.
They said the only way to get over a broken heart is to fall in love again. So I fell in love with myself. Best f*cking relationship in my life. — Anonymous
14. I got trust issues.
I don’t got trust issues. I got “seen that shit happen before with my own eyes” issues. — Anonymous
15. Date for the long run.
I can’t date just to date. I date with the mindset that this is an investment because I'm investing my time and effort. The goal is marriage. — Anonymous
16. This is what love is.
Look, you wanna know what marriage is really like? Fine. you wake up, she's there. You get home from work, she's there. You fall asleep, she's there. You eat dinner, she's there. You know? I mean, I know that sounds like a bad thing, but its not. — Everybody Loves Raymond
17. Listen to Jane.
Friendship is certainly the finest balm for the pangs of disappointed love. — Jane Austen
18. Rick is everyone's realist uncle.
Listen Morty, I hate to break it to you, but what people call “love” is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, Morty, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. I did it. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle, Morty. Rise above. Focus on science. — Rick Sanchez from Rick and Morty
19. Why we end relationships.
Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we want to leave the person we have become. — Esther Perel
20. Fairy tales aren't 100% true.
I love love, and I’m very hopeful and was raised on all the fairy tales everyone else had. I just noted that everyone’s mom was dead and real princesses get beheaded, so i just have a more realistic take on it. — Amy Schumer
21. Love is unpredictable.
Love is like a war: easy to start, easy to end, and you never know where it might take you. — Oscar Wilde
22. I don't trust it.
You say that you love the rain, but you open your umbrella when it rains. You say you love the sun, but you find a shadow spot when the sun shines. You say you love the wind, but you close the window when the wind blows. This is why I am afraid, you say that you love me too. — William Shakespeare
23. 'I love you' is hard to believe.
Of all the lies I've heard, ‘I love you’ was always my favorite. — Anonymous
24. Love never listens to reason.
But the law of loving others could not be discovered by reason, because it is unreasonable. — Anna Karenina
25. It's scary.
Sometimes I'm terrified of my heart; of its constant hunger for whatever it is it wants. The way it stops and starts. — Edgar Allan Poe
Kayla Baptista is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationship topics.