Breakups are never easy.
By Steven Hall — Written on Jul 29, 2019
There are times in everyone's life when life gets tough and brutal, and there's a point where you are just over it. Your breaking point has been reached. There are steps you can take to make you feel better eventually. There are no quick fixes — feeling it out is the only way.
You need to accept that there’s no going back. No wishes for hope, no stressing about “what could have been” the reality is that it is over.
Deep down we all are like that child who cries to his mom because she got hurt playing on the swing, we all need to let out our emotions. Having times in your day where you can cry, punch a pillow, or just scream will do wonders to your attitude later on. When we don’t let out or emotions we bottle it in and eventually that will pop out no matter what. Whether it is you cutting someone off or you cursing off a loved one.
It’s important to not fall into a victim mentality. When you’re in pain you want the other person who did this to suffer. You want them to pay but that’s just not the reality, the only thing you can control is how you act about it.
Focus on where you are at right now, not where you were 20 days ago. Focusing on the past too much will lead you to now enjoying the present. If you’re out with your friends then enjoy a night with your friends, don’t focus on what happened a while back.
Forgiving the person who wronged you is the last step. It isn’t weakness but the path towards creating a better future for you.
Moving on is much easier said than done. It can take days, months — years even. It will ultimately happen though if you follow those steps, and in the meantime here is some of the best quotes for when you're over it so you can let go of all of the frustration you must have right now.
1. There’s always a rainbow after the rain.
"When someone leaves, it’s because someone else is about to arrive."– Paulo Coelho
2. Make light out of darkness.
"Heartbroken? Channel your sorrow to become worthy of love. The world will be yours. "― Tapan Ghosh
3. Figure out who you are.
"One of the best times for figuring out who you are and what you really want out of life? Right after a break-up." ― Mandy Hale
4. Remove any hatred.
"I can still love an ex as a person, regardless if the breakup was bad. I would never wish anything negative on them. It takes more energy to hate them than to wish them well." — Ashley Greene
5. Be patient
"Patience is key for getting over a breakup. That and trailing off your interaction after the breakup." — Drake
6. Don’t be disillusioned
"How do you know when it’s over? Maybe when you feel more in love with your memories than with the person standing in front of you." — Gunnar Ardelius
7. Get a new life plan
"I believe much of the pain of a breakup comes from having a life plan that you have fallen in love with. When it does not work out, you become angry that you now have to pursue a new life plan." — Karen Salmansohn
8. You deserve better than being taken advantage of.
"I will not try to convince you to love me, to respect me, to commit to me. I deserve better than that; I am better than that. Goodbye!" — Steve Maraboli
9. Accept when it’s over.
"Like some wines our love could neither mature nor travel." ― Graham Greene
10. The forgotten goodbyes.
"Sadly enough, the most painful goodbyes are the ones that are left unsaid and never explained." ― Jonathan Harnisch
11. Everyone experiences hardship.
"What happens to people that love each other? I suppose they have whatever they have, and they are more fortunate than others. Then one of them gets the emptiness forever." — Ernest Hemingway
12. Things aren’t as bad as you see them.
"What is it that makes you cry? It is only your attachments. What is it that you miss when it is lost? It is the object of your attachment. Ponder over this." – Osho
13. You need to feel it to heal it.
"In order to truly value loyalty, you must first endure the affliction of betrayal." ― Thomas Merritt
14. Experience your emotions.
"Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either." — Golda Meir
15. Don’t be stuck in the past.
"One doesn’t simply grieve the loss of a relationship. One grieves the loss of the possible future, as well as the wiping-out of the past."— Katerina Stoykova-Klemer
16. Be thankful for the memories but don’t go back to your past self.
"I think it’s important to realize that you can miss something, but not want it back." – Paulo Coelho
17. They lost a gem in you.
"One day they’ll realize they lost a diamond while playing with worthless stones."– Turcois Ominek
18. Be the stronger person and let go.
"Some think that holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it’s letting go."– Herman Hesse
19. Be okay with feeling sad and embrace your emotions.
"Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation." – Khalil Gibran
20. Embrace the hardships.
"Hearts live by being wounded." – Oscar Wilde
21. Get back up.
"You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down." – Mary Pickford
22. Take care of yourself.
"Healing yourself is connected with healing others." – Yoko Ono
23. Don’t waste time on them.
"Don’t waste moments waiting and wondering. Don’t throw away your time dreaming of someone that doesn’t want you. No one is that amazing, certainly not the one who would pass you up." ― Donna Lynn Hope
24. Be happy for the memories.
"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." — Alfred Lord Tennyson
25. Wait for the right person.
“If you were happy with the wrong one, just think how happy you will be when the right one comes along.”-Unkown
26. The pain’s in life are future achievements.
“Someone I loved once gave me a box of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift”- Mary Oliver
27. You can love the right person.
“If you can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you can love the right one.”-Unkown
28. Pain makes you stronger.
“Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you” -Ovid
29. It will never happen.
"Loving someone who doesn’t love you is like waiting for a ship at the airport.”-Unkown
30. Embrace the pain.
“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.” – Kenji Miyazawa
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Steven Hall is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture, and relationship topics.