How To Move On When You Still Care, By Zodiac Sign
Taking care of a broken heart is as important as taking care of your physical health.
Unsplash Learning how to move on after having your heart broken by someone you loved and trusted can feel near impossible. I mean, this is someone who you thought would always love and care for you, protect you, and make you feel important, right?
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And now all of a sudden, or maybe not so suddenly, that person is telling you that it’s over for good. No matter what your zodiac sign is, you deal with a broken heart in your own way.
Some of us try to cope and move on after an ex in healthy ways – like taking up kickboxing and pretending your ex is the punching bag – while the rest of us prefer to just drown our sorrows in comfort food and sad movies.
Don’t get me wrong: no one expects you to get over a broken heart like it doesn’t even matter. But at the same time, there IS a science to relationships that prove that there are good ways to cope with a breakup and bad ways to cope.
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Since the fate of your relationship (and subsequent broken heart) can affect your physical, emotional, AND mental health, it makes sense that you would want to heal from a broken heart with as much care as you would heal a physical injury or look for ways to care for your mental health.
One of the most important things to do when healing a broken heart is cutting all ties with your ex. It might be hard, but you owe it to yourself to start over without that person in your life anymore. Secondly, it’s important to do some inner soul-searching.
What do you want out of life? What would make you happiest? Maybe you want to focus on your career, start a new hobby, or find a new (and better) relationship. Give yourself time to really think about what you want before you jump into a rebound relationship just because it feels familiar.
And, of course, reconnect with your support system. Even if all you do is trash talk the person who broke your heart, having people around who always have your back is a surefire way to make yourself feel better in no time.
Using astrology, here’s how to heal from a broken heart, based on your horoscope sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Soothing a broken heart is important, but you have a terrific ability to bounce back from the bad and power through a new project or task. It’s like you’re a cat with nine lives, Aries. Although, except for lives, you have hearts that can be mended.
You’re not the kind of person to sit around and mope about something you don’t have anymore. Your positive and energetic personality is what will pull you out of your funk. Before you know it, you’ll be crushing on someone new and feeling like your own self again.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Having to transition from being in a relationship to single is hard for you, Taurus – and not just because you have to change your status on Facebook now. You’re not a big fan of change in the first place, but now that you’re being forced to change, it’s even harder on your heart.
It’s okay to worry about the future, now that it’s going to be different from what you planning for when you were with your ex. But as hard as it is, healing your broken heart will be much easier if you throw yourself back into a routine that works for you. You’ll find some comfort again.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
You like being in a relationship (when they’re fun), but you get your thrills from elsewhere, too. Really, you don’t have to be in a relationship to enjoy life, Gemini. But we all deal with heartbreak, you included. You might pretend like you’re not sad, but venting can actually do you some good.
If you’re dealing with a broken heart, reconnect with your friends. You might have felt isolated when you were with your ex, but now that you’re single you can gossip and vent all you want to your friends about your relationship. You’ll feel a million times better once you talk it out.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
It can be easy for you to want to put up walls and want to protect yourself from any more heartbreak after a breakup, Cancer, but that’s not always the healthy option. Plus, everyone knows you’re a big softy on the inside, which means you won’t be hiding from your feelings for long.
The best way for you to heal a broken heart is to lean in to your emotions. It’s going to be rough at first, but letting yourself feel your feelings will help you heal faster than trying to stuff them down. Just promise me you’ll express your emotions in a healthy way, like through art or exercise.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
You know that there are so many beautiful, amazing experiences in life that holding onto heartbreak just isn’t healthy. That’s not to say you don’t ever experience heartbreak, but it does mean you’re a little better at getting over it than other zodiac signs, Leo.
Once the relationship is over, you are ready to move on. You’re all about looking toward the future, not worrying about the past, after all. The best way for you to heal a broken heart is to surround yourself with all of the people who love and adore you most, like friends and family.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
You hate the idea of focusing on the bad and not the good, Virgo. I mean, life really is too short to be sad or angry all the time. That’s why you try not to hold onto any regrets after a relationship is over. Yeah, your heart might be fractured, but it’s probably not shattered.
The best way to heal after a breakup is to forgive and forget. You generally try to see the good in others, and now that there’s no point in getting hung up on your ex you might as well appreciate the good that came of the relationship and move on. Thank you, next!
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
As a Libra, you’re not one to stick around after having your heart broken. Why get all hung up on the past when there could be a new love in your very near future? You don’t believe in letting yourself turn into someone cynical and negative after a breakup, either. You know there’s someone out there for you.
The best way for you to heal after heartbreak is to let yourself be sad, but put yourself on a time limit. If you get swallowed up by sadness, you won’t leave your bed for a month. After your week of mourning, get back into a routine of loving yourself and finding your happiness again.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
I’m not going to lie, Scorpio, healing your broken heart is going to be really hard. You’re going to want to shut everyone out and grieve on your own. Look, I get it, you don’t let just anyone get that close to your heart, and now that it’s broken, you’re not going to want anyone else near it.
But you still need to heal your broken heart. Otherwise, you’ll always have resentment towards love. Healing for you means expressing every raw emotion you feel, when you feel it. Get angry, cry, yell – whatever it takes to make you feel better. And trust me, it will make you feel better.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
You like to look on the bright side of life, Sagittarius, and exes and broken hearts are only going to bring you down. You’ve never been one to get hung up on someone after the relationship is over because it’s only a waste of your time and energy.
Healing your broken heart can be as easy as moving on to the next exciting adventure in your life. Surround yourself with your best friends, have some fun, and relax. You know how to cut your losses when things are over, relationships included.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Dealing with a broken heart really sucks for you, Capricorn. You want to get back to your old life, but coping after a breakup can really take up a lot of your time. *Sigh* You really only get your heart broken when you’ve put a lot of energy and effort into a relationship. Any other breakups don’t really matter to you.
The best way for you to heal your broken heart is to throw yourself back into your work. You’ve always been able to hyper-focus on things that are important to you, but instead of focusing on a relationship, you can start a new project and get back to whatever makes you happiest.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Dealing with a broken heart is hardest when you feel like you’ve lost a best friend, too, Aquarius. Sure, breaking up with your partner isn’t fun, but feeling like you don’t have that person to just be a friend anymore hurts a lot.
The best way for you to heal a broken heart is to find your independence again. Spend time with yourself and learn how to be your own best friend. You’ll definitely need some time with your support group, but get comfortable spending quality time with yourself, too.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Nothing feels better than a really good cry, am I right, Pisces? Having your heart broken is just so awful, but like any other bad experience in life, crying it out helps a ton. That said, don’t lock yourself away in your room and only cry – that can get unhealthy.
After letting yourself be sad, find someone you trust and talk everything out. Sometimes, all you need to feel better is a good listener. Having someone to relate to what you’re going through will help your broken heart heal that much faster.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.