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There are some secrets that are too personal to tell, and that we always want to hide.
By Emily Ratay — Written on Jan 07, 2019
Some zodiac signs are known for their private natures. Scorpio is considered to be quiet and mysterious, while Cancer or Pisces zodiac signs are more pensive and reserved when meeting strangers and warm up when they know you well.
When you first meet someone new, it can be easy to want to keep some things from them including a secret. You know, until you get to know them a little better.
Once your relationship with them starts to get stronger, and you start learning more about them, you're more inclined to tell them the things you wanted to hide at first.
Astrology aside, we all want to put our best foot forward when meeting someone new, right? So, when it comes to sharing the crazy parts of ourselves, it's a good idea to save those things for the fifth or sixth date... you know, just to make sure that they still really like you by the time you start getting really honest with them.
That said, there are still some things we might not want to ever tell the person we're dating or friends with. Sure, you might like the thought of being able to tell someone everything and them not judging you for it, but the thought of even bringing up some of the darkest secrets about yourself can be nerve-wracking.
In fact, there's a good chance that he's not telling you the whole story about himself. Now, before you get mad with him, think about everything you've told him.
Is there anything you've refused to share just because you thought he wouldn't understand – or because you were too embarrassed to be honest about it?
We all have secrets, whether we like it or not. Sharing those secrets with people can be really scary for quite a few horoscope signs. And if we're unsure how someone will react, it can be easy for us to just want to pack them away forever and never let anyone know what we're hiding.
But before you start hiding everything about yourself, know that keeping secrets isn't very good for your health. Usually, the secret itself isn't nearly as bad as the effort we can go to hiding the secret from people.
Having a piece of information that you are so actively trying to hide from someone can be so much more stressful than sharing that secret. That doesn't mean you HAVE to tell people your secrets, but it does mean that you might want to rethink why you're hiding the secret in the first place.
Would it be a better idea to just be honest about it? If you're hiding a big enough secret, not only can hiding it away be stressful but changing your life around to accommodate the secret can be stressful, too.
If you don't want someone to know that you have a hard time asking people for help when you're lost or stuck, you might never put yourself in a situation where you have to work with others, which can be extremely hard when you're at work or in a new, vulnerable situation.
Trust me when I say that secrets aren't usually worth keeping, especially because of how harmful they can be to you. But if someone you care about is holding a secret close to themselves, it's important to be understanding about it.
Each zodiac sign has something they may never tell you about themselves, whether they're hiding it like a secret or not. If you find out what it is, it's a good idea to give him time to warm up to it before telling you.
Knowing that he can trust you will make all the difference. Per astrology, here is what he may never tell you about his life, based on his zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
When you think of the kind of person Aries is, it usually has something to do with his confidence.
He’s one of the zodiac signs most likely to succeed because he’s always looking for a new challenge in life. What you don’t know about him, though, is that he hesitates often.
Aries has a “my way or the highway” mindset, which means that if he can’t do things exactly how he wants to, they usually don’t last very long.
The hesitation he feels comes from doubting himself before plowing through a new project. Maybe in the back of his mind, he knows that he should ask for help, but his pride makes him hesitate every time.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
One of Taurus’ main goals in life is to have stability and comfort to last a lifetime. He’s the kind of person who will always spring for better quality items and make sure the people in his life are well taken care of.
But underneath all of this comfort, Taurus still has a problem finding stability. Does he like instant gratification?
That means that his bank account is always on the low side – why save up for something when you can get it right now and deal with the bill later?
Even when it comes to emotional stability or being a rock for others, Taurus might never reveal that he worries he’ll always feel a little lost and struggling.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
The one thing Gemini always seems to be searching for in life is a dynamic partnership. He loves making friends, dating, and meeting new people, but behind every relationship he has, he wonders if anyone could be the other half of a dynamic duo – his twin flame.
Because of this desperation to find someone who understands him completely, Gemini tends to change parts of himself so that he can be seen as likable to everyone.
He might not reveal it to you or anyone else, but he worries that he’s losing his true self; that the person he shows to the world isn’t the real him anymore.
He compromises very easily because he wants people to like him, even though he risks losing himself, too.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
To an untrained eye, Cancer is the kind of zodiac sign that believes that your family and your roots are the most important things in the world. When friends and lovers can come and go, the family is the tie that runs deep.
While this is certainly true, there is something about his family that he doesn’t share with others. More specifically, the fact that Cancer feels responsible for his family.
What may seem like a Cancer who is overprotective of his younger siblings or who would rather live at home than move out is really one who feels guilty when he tries living his own life.
Maybe his past makes him act this way, but he can’t shake his “caretaker” nature.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Even the most confident Leo has had to deal with insecurity at some point in his life. While he might seem like he’s confident speaking his mind or standing up for himself now, there was once a time when he had trouble with these things.
Maybe he’s still trying to fake it ‘til he makes it, but one thing is for sure – he’s not going to share this piece of information about his life with just anyone.
It might have been something simple, like learning how to ask for what he wants, or something more complicated, like exploring his self-expression, but Leo has dealt with some serious insecurity in his life.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Anyone who knows Virgo knows that he likes things to be perfect – and the fact that he would go to great lengths to achieve perfection. He likes when everything functions like a well-oiled machine... and gets frustrated when things get chaotic.
But even when things seem like they're all in disarray, Virgo is a pro at finding order in almost every aspect of his life (key word: almost). What he might not tell you about his life, though, is that because he's always seen as the perfection pro.
It's hard for him to ask for help without seeming weak or less than he is. Even in the back of his mind, he knows this isn't true, it's hard for him to change his mindset.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libra isn't the scales of the zodiac for nothing – he is always searching for that perfect balance. Since relationships are most important to him, finding the perfect balance between giving and taking in each one of his relationships is paramount.
What he might not admit to, though, is that finding his balance takes time and practice. Cultivating a new relationship for him can be extra stressful because he feels like he's either too lenient and "walk all over-able" or too closed off and reserved.
He doesn't like admitting that he has trouble setting boundaries at first because he doesn't want people to think that he doesn't have his sh*t together like he wishes he did.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Everyone knows that Scorpio is one of the most intense zodiac signs out there. Still waters run deep with him, that's for sure. This is the zodiac sign that will always be a little bit more mysterious than all the rest, which means that not everyone will be lucky enough to know the real him.
Think of Scorpio as the strong, silent type. The type of person who has had to overcome a LOT to get where he is today. And speaking of overcoming things, the one thing Scorpio may never open up about his life – no matter how close you are – is the hardships he's had to endure.
He may be confident, full of love, or looking for new friends now, but there was a time before this new and improved Scorpio that may still be too hard for him to talk about.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarius loves meeting new people, going on adventures, and snagging new opportunities – he's the one in your life you most wish you could be because he always seems like he's enjoying life.
Of course, Sagittarius can be a bit flaky, too. While he does have a deeply profound side, there are things about the serious side of life that he may never share with you. More specifically, Sagittarius may never own up to the fact that settling down scares him.
Putting down roots or giving up his daredevil. An adventurous side isn't something he's comfortable with. And even though he has a knack for exploring the unknown, this is one unknown he's not sure he can handle.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorn has a little bit of a problem with tunnel vision. Once he sets his sights on a new goal, there is nothing in the world that can make him change his mind or divert his course. While this is certainly admirable in some situations, not every situation calls for his patented brand of ambition.
One thing Capricorn may never tell you about his life is that he feels like he constantly has to set out to reach a new goal, otherwise he feels like he's just wasting his time doing nothing. Conversely, he wishes his life were a little bit more playful and spontaneous.
All of these woulds and coulds Capricorn thinks about makes him feel like he's not really living his life the way he wants, even if he never admits he wishes things were different.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Community and humanitarian efforts are of great importance to Aquarius. While it might take him a while to find a place where he fits in completely, once he finds his place, he works hard to find ways to take care of others and be of service.
Aquarius is always fighting for justice and what's right, but he has a secret that even those in his closest circle might never learn about him. He might never tell you that all of this fighting for others doesn't leave much time for him to fight for what he wants.
There are times when Aquarius wishes he could be selfish and take a break from the exhausting business that is helping others, but the guilt is too much. His greatest challenge will be learning how to make time for himself and those he cares about.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces is a natural-born healer and caretaker – it's in his blood to lend a helping hand whenever and however possible. In fact, Pisces is so dedicated to helping those in need that he often sacrifices things he wants in order to make room for other people's wants and needs.
He might never tell you that it's almost impossible for him to say no. He would rather run himself ragged trying to make your life as spectacular as it possibly can than tell you that he can't be your savior or knight in shining armor.
Pisces lives to serve, but he has a hard time finding the right boundaries that help him serve others and make things happen for himself. On top of that, life itself can be overwhelming for him. And with so many balls up in the air, he feels lost and directionless.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.