15 Men Reveal What It Means If They Kiss You On The First Date

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"You must remember this, a kiss is just a kiss..." But is it really? And more importantly, what about a kiss on the first date?

Should you kiss on the first date?

Deciding to kiss someone on a first date is a deeply personal question. If you can't wait to lock lips with this person, by all means, go for it! But ending a first date without a kiss doesn't mean there won't be many more dates — and maybe even a promising relationship — with this person in the future.

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What does a kiss on the first date mean?

There are many different things someone might be thinking when they choose to kiss you on a first date. Was he just being polite? Was he dreaming of laying one on you all night long? There's no way to know without asking him, but let's be real, interrogating a guy about the reason he decided to kiss you on the first date falls squarely into the category of "not a super great idea if you're hoping he'll ask you out again."

One thing is for sure: a kiss on the first date does not mean either of you have consented to taking things any further than that. Let's just get that straight right off the bat.

As you probably already know, a kiss can have many different types of meanings.

I asked a group of guys (anonymously) what men think about the subject. They revealed what they're thinking when they lean in, what they're hoping for, and all of the different reasons they might decide to get that lip lock... or not.

Here are 15 reasons men think you should or shouldn't kiss on the first date, and what it means If you do.

1. Kissing on the first date lets a guy know he should ask you out again

"If there's no kiss on the first date, I'm left wondering and usually don't pursue much further."

2. It helps determine if there's chemistry between you.

"If there seems to be chemistry between us, I try to go for it. Otherwise, what's the point of dating?"

3. It may be a way of satisfying their curiosity about you.

"I try just out of curiosity, sometimes even when I've already made up my mind that I'm not that into it."

4. It's a natural next step in the progression from dating to being in a relationship.

"Not kissing after an hour-long coffee date makes sense. After a couple hour-long dates that involve dinner (bowling, going to a Ferris wheel, ice skating, a walk through a public park, mini golf, other things), followed up by drinks or coffee somewhere, however?

"Usually, by then it's been about 3-4 hours of us talking and spending time together. That's generally enough time to decide whether or not there's going to be a second and third date. I won't even go for one unless there's been a yes to a second date.

"All of that also depends on how long and how much we've talked for leading up to the first date, but that's usually a decent amount, as I won't even ask for a first date until we've talked more than an initial greeting."

5. Sometimes, a hug can be just as good when ending a first date.

"If it's a particularly longer than expected first date, and she seems into it, yeah I'll go for it. Otherwise, we'll hug it out and I'll offer to go out again."

6. When you are already friends, kissing can be a way of confirming that you're taking things to the next level.

"I've kissed on the first date because I already had a friendship with the person beforehand and we had good communication. It was a long, passionate smooch that turned into a long session of necking on a sidewalk on the Lower East Side with people and cars going by at 3:00 AM. She is now my wife."

7. Kissing is simply romantic.

"When a date is going well, there’s really no better way to end it than with a romantic kiss. Nobody likes awkward goodbyes or weird hugs."

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8. Even if you do, that doesn't mean things will go any farther.

"I wouldn't read too much into it. It's too early to be planning the wedding, or naming your children."

9. It might mean a guy is ready for more, but that doesn't mean you have to be there yet.

"It means I'd be happy to sleep with her, but I'll settle for what I can get."

10. It can be a way to express what you're feeling.

"Usually it means that I've been caught up in the moment and I want to communicate that clearly."

11. In general, a kiss at the end of the first date is usually a sign of enthusiasm.

"If I'm kissing someone on a first date it means one of two things: that I want to see her again, or that I really, really want to see her again."

12. But sometimes, it doesn't mean anything at all to at least one person involved.

"Sometimes I just give a peck on the lips at the door because I feel like I have to, but I wouldn't look at it as being the be-all and end-all."

13. Kissing can be a good way of testing the physical waters between you.

"For me, a kiss on the first date is like testing the waters. Is she into it? Do we even have chemistry? Do we both like the way the other person kisses?"

14. Keep in mind that some people don't enjoy kissing for kissing's sake.

"I'm weird about kissing. I'm not a huge fan, but I know girls are. If I'm kissing on a first date, it's because I'm hoping it will get me in the front door."

15. The way someone kisses you on the first date can tell you as much as whether or not they do.

"It depends on the kind of kiss. Sometimes a kiss can be practically G-rated, but other times I really lay it on because I want her to know that she made an impression."

Is it bad if you don't kiss on the first date?

Let's be perfectly clear: you should only ever kiss someone when, and if, you both want to. If you're not ready on the first date, that isn't bad or wrong — it's how you feel.

If they lean in to try and you like them but don't want to kiss them yet, let them know you had a great time and would love to see them again, but that you prefer taking things more slowly.

If they really like you too, they should be thrilled to know you're vibing and want to go out again.

If they push back or give you a hard time, that could be an important warning sign that this is someone who may not be great about respecting boundaries. Better to know that upfront.

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Rebecca Jane Stokes is a writer living in Brooklyn, New York with her cat, Batman. She's the Senior Editor of Pop Culture at Newsweek with a passion for lifestyle, geek news, and true crime.