15 Men Reveal What It Really Means If They Kiss You On The First Date

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"You must remember this, a kiss is just a kiss..." But is it really? And what about when you kiss on the first date?

When it comes to love and dating, a kiss can be so much more than just the simple act of two people putting their mouths together. As you probably already know, a kiss can have many different types of meaning. It can mean "good morning," it can mean "I'm sorry," it can mean "I want to go to bed with you," and that's just off the top of my head. 


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There are different kinds of kisses for different times in our lives, too. The way we kiss someone after 20 years of marriage is different than the butterfly-inducing kisses that come in the early days of love and dating. When you've been with someone for years, the way you kiss doesn't leave any doubts or questions, but when you're puckering up for your very first kiss on the first date, you're bound to walk away with your head swimming and wondering what that smooch means.

Was he just being polite? Was he dreaming of kissing you all night long? There's no way to know without asking him, and let's be real, interrogating a guy about the reason he decided to kiss us on a first date falls squarely into the category of total insanity.

There are many different things that a man might be thinking when he chooses to kiss you on your first date. I asked a group of guys (anonymously) what men think about first date kisses. The revealed what they're thinking when they lean in, what they're hoping, and all of the different reasons they might decide to get that lip lock! 

1. It answers a question.

"If there's no kiss on the first date, I'm left wondering and usually don't pursue much further."

2. It determines if there's chemistry.

"If there is chemistry I try to go for it. Otherwise, what's the point of dating?"

3. I'm always curious.

"I try just out of curiosity, sometimes even when I've already made up my mind that I'm not that into it." 

4. If we've spent time together, it's the next step.

"Not kissing after an hour-long coffee date makes sense. After a couple hour-long dates that involve dinner (bowling, going to a Ferris wheel, ice skating, a walk through a public park, mini golf, other things), followed up by drinks/coffee somewhere, however? Usually, by then it's been about 3-4 hours of us talking and spending time together. That's generally enough time to decide whether or not there's going to be a second and third date. Especially if I'm just leaving it at a kiss. I won't even go for a kiss unless there's been a yes to a second date. All of that also depends on how long and how much we've talked for leading up to the first date, but that's usually a decent amount, as I won't even ask for a first date until we've talked more than an initial greeting too."

5. I always go for a hug.

"If it's a particularly longer than expected first date, and she seems into it, yeah I'll go for it. Otherwise, we'll hug it out and I'll offer to go out again."

6. Who knows where a kiss might lead!

"I've kissed on the first date because I already had a friendship with the person beforehand and we had good communication; a long passionate kiss that turned into a long session of necking. On the sidewalk on the Lower East Side. With people and cars going by. At 3 AM. She is now my wife. "

7. Don't make it weird.

"When a date is going well, there’s really no better way to end it than with a romantic kiss. Nobody likes awkward goodbyes or ass-out hugs."

8. It's just a kiss.

"I wouldn't read too much into it. It's too early to be planning the wedding, or naming your children."


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9. I'll take what I can get. 

"It means I'd be happy to have sex with her, but I'll settle for what I can get."

10. It can signify feelings.

"Usually it means that I've been caught up in the moment and I want to communicate that clearly." 

11. A kiss means I'm into her.

"If I'm kissing someone on a first date it means one of two things: that I want to see her again, or that I really, really want to see her again."

12. Manners are everything.

"Meh, sometimes I just give a peck on the lips at the door because I feel like I have to. I wouldn't look at a kiss as being the be all and end all."

13. It's a chemistry test.

"For me, a kiss on the first date is like testing the waters. If she into it? Do we even have chemistry?" 

14. We all have our things.

"I'm weird about kissing. I'm not a huge fan, but I know girls are. If I'm kissing on a first date it's because I'm hoping it will get me in the front door." 

15. It reveals your true feelings.

"It depends on the kind of kiss. Sometimes a kiss can be practically G-rated, but other times I really lay it on because I want her to know that she made an impression." 


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Rebecca Jane Stokes is a writer living in Brooklyn, New York with her cat, Batman. She hosts the love and dating advice show, Becca After Dark, on YourTango's Facebook Page every Tuesday and Thursday at 10:15 pm Eastern. For more of her work, check out her Tumblr.