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The Hot And Cold Zodiac Signs In A Relationship & The Ones Who Make Stable Partners

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Zodiac Signs Most Likely To Be "Hot And Cold" In A Relationship (And The Ones Who Make The Most Stable Partners)

Commitment can be really scary if you're not prepared for it.

Some people are natural at relationships, and others are hot and cold.  Libras and Tauruses don't even have to think about it. Gemini (and zodiac signs who have more air and water in their horoscope personality traits, can't decide if they are in or out.

At some point, we've all thought about our ideal relationship — and no, I don't mean the relationship you had if you were dating that celebrity you've had a crush on forever; even if you have already created an imaginary world with them in your head.

I mean the ideal relationship you'd want if you found the right person and were ready to make it serious with them. The kind of person who you were born to be with, whose zodiac chart aligned with yours, and you felt like you had a soulmate connection from the very start.

We all have standards for the kind of relationship we want and even if you don't realize it, you do try to meet those standards when you date.

But just because you know what you want doesn't mean the relationship comes easily. In fact, relationships and dating are hard work.

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They demand a lot of effort and time, and some people just aren't cut out for something serious right now — even if they say they are.

Or maybe you're the kind of person who has no idea what they're looking for in a relationship, even though you do still look for a relationship.

It's not a bad thing to be confused about what you want in a partner and in yourself, but it can get messy when you project these confusions onto your relationship.

I'm sure you've met astrological zodiac signs who are either hot and cold when it comes to relationships or ready to lay out their five-year plan with you.

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Those who tend to be hot and cold are usually the ones who are either holding out for the best of the best or they just have no clue where to start.

It's easy for them to get caught up in overthinking and decipher between what will probably never happen and what are real concerns.

As for the ones who already have an idea of what they want to name their children and where they want to live with you, these are the zodiac signs who know that love does take time, but they're willing to take the risk.

They might be slow to commit at first, but once they do, they're in it for the long haul. If you ask me, I'd admire these zodiac signs.

Sometimes, I wish I could be like them and just dive into a relationship with both feet, but I do tend to get caught up in my head and it can be hard for me to just go for it.

But if you're hot and cold now, that doesn't mean that you're going to be hot and cold forever.

Sometimes, we need to let ourselves do these things like only focus on casual relationships or on being alone before we can confidently find a committed relationship.

Whether you're just curious about where your zodiac sign falls on this scale or you want to date the best sign for your zodiac sign, here are the zodiac signs most likely to be hot and cold in a relationship. And, the ones who make the most stable partners, according to astrology.

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

Gemini, you're the kind of partner who is constantly changing their mind. You're not sure what you want to do for dinner, you're still on the fence about your weekend plans — it's exhausting. You tend to lose concentration and bore easily, so it only makes sense that you would be very hot and cold when it comes to relationships.

In your defense, you're restless about everything, not just your relationships. You want the next big thing and you don't want to have to wait. Of course, thinking about the next big thing while you're already in a relationship isn't such a great thing to do, is it?

Maybe you're just not sure what you want in the first place and starting something with someone just seems like a good idea.

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SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

Scorpio, you're a very passionate, feeling person and that is not lost on the people you date. But when it comes to commitment and stable relationships, you get scared off very easily, even if you want to commit. To you, there's a big difference between being with someone with no presumptions about what could happen and going into a relationship knowing that this is the real deal.

In your mind, a stable relationship is one that is going to last for a long time. Maybe not forever, but if you're in a serious relationship, you're not really thinking about the end of the timeline, right? And you know that if it doesn't work out, there's a good chance you could lose a lot. You don't want to get hurt, so you rein your real feelings in and risk seeming hot and cold as protection.

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PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

Pisces, I'm going to just come right out and say it: you are not that great at making solid, lasting decisions. When you think of commitment and a stable relationship, your mind always goes to the fairytale or romantic comedy. You love the idea of having your future already written out and all you have to do is play the part of princess or cutie with the heart-eyes. If only.

In reality, you're much more realistic and that is your downfall. You know that life is short, and you don't want to miss out on something better. You think that if you start dating one person that another, better person will come along the next day.

For you, it's much easier to start a long-term thing and not be able to finish it. For that reason, you end up acting hot and cold because you're always secretly holding out for something better.

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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

Sagittarius, when you think about love and life, you want to let your hair down and live both to the absolute fullest. Any kind of rules or "lock-down" in a relationship makes you immediately want to get out of said relationship because you hate compromise and you hate having to restrain yourself – you are who you are, after all!

The main reasons you're so hot and cold all the time is because you're incredibly judgmental and picky, whether you admit it to yourself or not. You have high standards for your partner, even if you yourself don't adhere to these standards. If you ask me? It's just because you want an excuse not to try very hard in your relationship and you're not patient enough to give it time.

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AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

Aquarius, you're slow to commit and have a stable, open relationship mainly because you tend to overthink everything. You can worry too much about whether your partner is as happy as you are or if you're going to feel stuck in a relationship your whole life without realizing that you hold all the power.

Unhappy? Leave. Worried about your partner? Talk about it. Stop backing yourself into invisible corners. But the reason you can be so hot and cold at times is because you're not as emotionally open as other zodiac signs.

You don't want to subject yourself to emotional pain, so you leave the relationship (or check out mentally) before things get too serious. That way, you stay in control, but you never get hurt. Smart to you, maybe, but definitely doesn't make you seem trustworthy.

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CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

Cancer, you're a sign that loves to love and wants to commit but can't always seem to hack it. You tend to use your partner's interest as your own gauge for stability and happiness, rather than asking yourself what you really want. Just because your partner is totally into the relationship doesn't mean you have to fake it yourself.

You tend to be easily influenced, though, so this is an active exercise you will have to conduct on yourself. When you do start to head into overemotional territory and don't think you can take the pressure of a stable relationship, remember that you don't have to date someone to be happy. You might even be better suited for a meaningful relationship with yourself for a while.

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CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

Capricorn, you are all about commitment and you will gladly start a stable, long-term relationship... as long as your partner proves that they can support you. You don't want to put all of your eggs in one basket and then realize that this isn't going to work out like you hoped.

You tend to be practical for a long time before letting yourself relax in a relationship just in case. That said, you can also get very moody and out of your element if you're not in control. Even though you know a stable relationship is one where both people are happy and know what's healthy for them, you can still try to control the situation.

In fact, the only reason why you're not especially great at being a stable partner is because you're known to cut partners off if they're not exactly what you expected.

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LEO (July 23 - August 22)

Leo, you are a great, very stable partner when you know that your other half will give themselves completely to you. It might seem like your head is in the clouds at times, but you do try hard to be realistic in love.

For you, love is all about having big dreams and trying to bring as many of them into reality, rather than coasting and letting things happen. What makes you such a good partner is that you know that not everyone is perfect — including yourself, no matter how much you try.

That means that you're never expecting your partner to fill a mold that can't exist and you're happy loving whoever comes into your life. Of course, love ain't always easy, but you are patient and when you want love to work out, you'll try your hardest.

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LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

Libra, you love the idea of commitment and being with that one special person. You might be quick to physically commit, but slow to love with your whole heart — you want to make the right decision after all.

For you to really make a relationship work and prove that you're in it for the long haul, you need to do things the way that makes sense to you. You absolutely must have a partner who is just as serious as you are about making your relationship last.

If you think at any time that your partner isn't putting in 100 percent effort, then you're not going to keep trying. You can be a very stable partner and one who is ready to make things serious, as long as you know your partner is just as happy and willing.

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ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

Aries, dating means commitment and a serious relationship to you. When you date, you are always thinking about what dating that person will turn into, rather than just letting it be a fling.

You are known for having very stable and long-term relationships, and you're not one to play around just to see if you can get away with it. In order for a relationship with you to work, your partner must always be honest with you about what they're feeling.

Because you're so serious and upfront about love, you expect your partner to be the same. If they don't give you a straight answer, you'll think that they agree with you, which can lead to a lot of miscommunication. You need equal stability in your relationship for this to work.

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VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

Virgo, you always have a long-term plan for relationships – for yourself and for your partner. Whenever you get into a serious relationship with someone, you expect to be in it for a very long time and you also expect your partner to be on the same page as you.

Even if that means detailing what you want from them right away, you believe in honesty. Now, while you may be slow to commit and make things official, once you do, you're in it for the long haul. Your main goal is to make sure that you know exactly where your partner stands before you get too serious.

Being an earth sign means that you have very deep roots in love and life and aren't afraid to plant these roots in someone you care deeply about.

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TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

Taurus, you tend to take things slow until you're sure of what you want in a relationship. You want to do the whole courting thing and make sure your partner knows that you're interested in something serious.

Once you do love someone, you're in it for good and you don't let go of that love very easily. You try to be as smart and careful about love as possible, but it is easy for you to get excited and lose your head a bit.

You're also an earth sign, which means that once you plant your roots, you're not going anywhere. It's very hard to sway you and make you change your mind, making you a very stable partner.

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Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.