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How To Know If He's Using You, According To Astrology By His Zodiac Sign

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How To Know If He's Using You, According To His Zodiac Sign & Astrology

Let's first state that not everyone who has a particular horoscope is destined to be a user.

But there are certain zodiac signs who, when not developed in a positive way, either by family background or choice, they act in shady ways.

Every zodiac sign has a positive and negative aspect to their horoscope's personalities. Part of this negativity factor involves using other people for personal gain.

It doesn't matter what its for — money, sex, popularity — it's never a good feeling being used. Trust me, I know! 

What I thought was my first serious relationship ended with me discovering my 'perfect boyfriend' had not only used my credit card without my permission, but he was using it to take other women out on lavish dates. 

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Looking back on my experience with a classic 'user', the signs were all there down to the shady aspects of a low-functioning zodiac sign.

I always had this nagging gut feeling that something was off but I didn't want to seem crazy by confronting him.

I learned my lesson the hard way (mostly through my credit card bill) but you don't have too.

Being able to identify red-flags and interpret them correctly can save you from heartache, and in my case, an awkward call to the bank. 

The worst, ladies. The worst. 

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The hardest part about being manipulated by this guy will be that you might really care about or even love him.

Trusting men can be an uphill battle for women, and it doesn't’t help that there will be instances where that trust is abused.

My best advice is to not swear off fruit after a few bad apples.

Take time to get to know yourself and what you want instead, focusing on you is always important but especially in laying a foundation for future relationships.

For real.

Each relationship is unique and the best way to know if your guy is just using you is to confront him with what you've noticed and how you feel about his behavior.

If you aren't ready for the big talk yet, here are some ways to figure out what his intentions really are based on his zodiac sign and astrology.

ARIES (March 20th - April 19th)

Competition drives an Aries man. From work to relationships, he always comes first. This means that on his best days, he's got a winning confidence that could charm the pants off of anyone.

But on his worst, he could be using you for one of his conquests. He views you as a prize to be won, and that's not exactly as flattering as it sounds.

Warning signs that he's just playing the field are hard to identify since he's so good at making you feel special, especially in bed.

Even if they're hard to see past your heart eyes, the signs will be there. Only calling at night is the biggest. Trust me, he might look like Edward but he's no vampire.

It's a booty call, and if that's not what you had in mind, then it's time to move on. If you're still not sure whether he's just using you for late night sex, ask him to hangout during the day.

Be strong, if he suggests 10 PM ask for a lunch date instead. Always busy, even on the weekends? Then it's probably true that he just wants a sexual relationship. 

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TAURUS (April 20th - May 20th)

The Taurus sign is one of the most reliable Zodiacs out there. This doesn't mean that he can't be just as shady as everyone else.

Taurus men are possessive and very into the material world, which can mean that he wants you as one of his 'things', like a fashionable watch or a flashy car.

It might be flattering at first, the way he shows you off at parties can make you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world. But that could be all there is to it.

There are a few fundamental problems with being an accessory. One, he's not appreciating you for who you are, just your looks.

And two, just like that fancy watch he can easily grow bored with you and chase after the next big trend, leaving you heartbroken.

If you're worried he's using you as a fashion piece, think about where you two spend the most time together. If it's at a party or similar scene with his friends, he might be showing you off for his gain.

Consider how he treats you as well. Does he ask about your day, your career, or your interests? Those are simple ways for a man to show that he cares about your life as a whole, instead of just how stunning you are. If all signs point to accessory, get out of there fast.

He just wants something pretty on his arm, and that is no foundation for a loving relationship.

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GEMINI (May 21st - June 20th)


Dependability is not a Gemini man's strong point. His emotions are subject to change at any moment, leaving you always wondering what your relationship really is.

This could lead to a whirlwind romance full of change and excitement, or it could check you into heartbreak hotel indefinitely as you try and navigate his ever changing moods.

One of the trickiest things about a Gemini man is that you can't pin him down. Whenever you make plans, they inevitably fall through as something 'comes up' at work. 

Frequently canceling plans last-minute is a clear indicator that he doesn't respect your time. It also leads to self-doubt; why doesn't he want to hangout with you?

Try not to get too worked up about what you're doing wrong, chances are it's something with him. Whether that's him keeping you on hold for when it's convenient or there's another woman involved. 

Know your worth and tell him to either pony up or saddle a different horse. 

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CANCER (June 21st - July 22nd)


Cancer men have a lot going for them in the relationship department. He can be deeply in tune with your emotions and tender in his interactions. But, like everyone, he has flaws.

The biggest red flag to be wary of in a relationship with a Cancer man is how he introduces you to other people in his life.

Cancer signs are private people, however that privacy can quickly turn to keeping your relationship a secret from his friends and family.

There could be a few reasons behind this behavior. He could be embarrassed about being in a relationship and this could be his way of saying "We're not serious."

Whatever the reason, keeping you his dirty little secret is using you. He is getting all the benefits of your love without admitting that you and him are an item. Ask him about meeting his friends.

If the answer is anything but yes, there's a problem. You can try and reason with him, but odds are he's saving the introductions for the future woman he really cares about. 

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LEO (July 23rd - August 22nd)


King of the jungle, Leo men exude confidence, and are usually dripping with ego. He can be warm-hearted and a lot of fun to be around, someone who'll always make you laugh.

His love of life is infectious, and you can't help admire the way he surrounds himself with beautiful experiences. It's not just experiences, though.

It's things, money, material objects. Whether it's never splitting the check or expecting fancy gifts without returning the favor, he is in a word, greedy, and never shells out for anything you two do together.

​This can be a tricky problem to navigate. Any conversation you may have already had with him probably ended in you walking away feeling like you did something wrong.

It's not true! In a relationship no one person should be paying for everything. This is a clear indicator that he is using you for your wealth, which is not acceptable.

You work hard for your money, and if he is taking advantage of you then you should cut him off. 

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VIRGO (August 23rd - September 22nd)


A hardworking Virgo man is not uncommon. He is practical and is often a workaholic, which could already be straining your relationship.

But that also means he is always trying to move up that career ladder, and is wiling to do anything to get to the top.

This includes using you as a way in. It's all about connections in the work place, who you know can get you far. Using you to get to your higher ups or friends is unethical and puts you in a compromising position. 

Does he always want to meet your friends, say nothing of his? Or maybe he's begging you to take him to that corporate dinner.

These tactics can seem innocuous, so pay attention to how he speaks to the people you introduce him too.

If he talks about work, money, or asks favors of these people, you should try and have a conversation about how inappropriate those behaviors are.

But if that doesn't work, then he's probably not interested in you, just your contacts. It's not your fault you're such a boss lady, sometimes success can attract the worst people. 

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LIBRA (September 23rd - October 22nd) 

The Libra Zodiac sign is a well groomed gentleman, most of the time. His impeccable taste and manners may be one of the things that first attracted you to him.

Those traits are all well and good, until he decides that you are not up to his standards.

Like Taurus men, to him you could be an accessory piece to compliment his already flawless outfit. The way a Libra man shows this differs from that of a Taurus significantly.

He may take you on normal dates, introduce you to his friends, but he is constantly nit-picking.

No one should ever be overly-critical of their partner, especially in the looks department. If your Libra man tells you how to dress, do your makeup, or even tries to teach you etiquette, it could definitely mean that he is using you to make himself look better.

It's true, you're beautiful, but you are so much more than that. If he doesn't ever express interest in your life and attempts to control your appearance, it's time to take your business elsewhere.

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SCORPIO (October 23rd - November 21st)

Often times a Scorpio man is full to the brim with emotions, and knows how to express them. This can provide an excellent foundation for your relationship, or it could lead to a more disappointing alternative.

He isn't using you for sex as much as he is using you for your emotions. Stay with me here, he can be described as an emotional terrorist.

He uses you to fill up his own heart with love and affection without returning any to yours. You might tell him you love him and he'll smile and give you a hug, but doesn't say it back.

Or maybe you make a point to compliment him before his big meeting with his boss, but when you're nervous he's no where to be found. This is toxic as it builds him up while slowly tearing you down.

To top it all off, he is unlikely to commit to a serious relationship because you're already meeting his emotional needs, while you leave empty handed. 

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SAGITTARIUS (November 22nd - December 21st)

The passion of a Sagittarius man knows no bounds. From sex to love, he can sweep you off your feet in a heartbeat. In fact, he has so much passion that he sometimes feels the need to share it with lots of partners.

There is a possibility that he is using you as one of those flings, an outlet for his sexual needs and little else. He could have other women or he could just be using you, it doesn't make a difference.

Either way, it's unfair to you, especially if you are looking for something more. One important sign to look for is when he talks to you.

Not only may it just be late at night, but it's only during regular business hours. Is he M.I.A during the weekend? Then the most likely scenario is he's out on the prowl for his next sexual conquest, leaving you the minute the clock strikes 5 PM on Friday.

The good news is that he can't lie to save his life. If you decide to confront him about this pattern of absences, chances are he'll be honest with you, for better or for worse.

Decide what you want from a relationship before going into that conversation to save yourself some time if you find out he only wants you in the sheets.

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CAPRICORN (December 22nd - January 19th)

Capricorn men are hard to read. Even in a healthy relationship, he has difficulty expressing his emotions to his partner. And if you're having a nagging feeling that something's off, it probably is in the case of a Capricorn man.

When you try and talk, he's never available. Or if you send a text trying to make plans, you rarely get a response, unless those texts are sexual in nature.

These are signs that he is not emotionally invested whatsoever, and is using you for sex. Getting to know someone is integral to a relationship's success.

But with him, you're not sure who he really is. He never opens up and refuses to reciprocate your emotional gestures. Back to texting, he might claim he is busy but lets be honest, who doesn't always have their phone with them?

At this point, if these things are true, a conversation won't get you anywhere. He has made it clear that he is using you for his pleasure and has no intention of committing.

If that is not what you want, save yourself unnecessary tears and move on.

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AQUARIUS (January 20th - February 18th)


Talk about your emotionally unavailable. Aquarius men have a very difficult time committing, which often leads to him settling for booty calls. However, he is probably very attentive in all other aspects of your relationship, such as taking you on dates, making it hard to tell if you're the exception or not.

Emotional conversations are obviously not his strong point, so confronting him could be rough. But chances are you've already tried it with the "so where is this going" talk. 

Think about when you have brought up your relationship status. Did he try and change the conversation or flat out say he didn't want to talk about it?

That is a pretty good sign that he is using you for sex and has no plans of committing to an actual relationship. 

This is so frustrating, particularly when you might have wanted something more with him. It's important to remember that if he wants to date you, he will make it happen.

Trying to convince him of your worth won't work and isn't necessary. If he doesn't already know you're amazing, its not worth it. 

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PISCES (February 19th - March 19th)

As unpredictable as they come, a Pisces man will always keep you on your toes. This can make for an exciting relationship or a disappointing rejection, and the awful part is there aren't going to be too many signs to help you out.

The biggest concern with him will be his loyalty. He is prone to cheating, something to consider if you are looking for a committed relationship.

He also cannot stand to be someone he's not, making it easier for him to justify his behavior. 

One of the only ways to tell if he is going to stay or leave the next morning is how interested he is in your personal life.

Asking thoughtful questions and listening to your response demonstrates that he cares about your wellbeing and is interested in who you are as a person.

Without that expressed interest, he is unfortunately most likely using you for sex as he searches for a partner that he feels would better suit him. His loss, beautiful!