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Is instant love realistic?
By Amy Leigh Mercree — Written on Feb 05, 2018
Fairy tales and rom-coms often tell us stories of two people meeting, sharing a look and instantly falling deeply in love for life. These stories of finding love at first sight ignite our hearts with hope of a love so vast and all-encompassing that we feel like we found our missing piece, "the one," our soulmate.
However, why does that inner part of us innately seek completion from another, instead of finding it within ourselves?
Perhaps, we are really seeking the divine outside of ourselves — instead of delving into the truth that we have within us all along.
That being said, I believe in love at first sight, and I believe in the unexplainable alchemy between souls.
I believe in the unknowable — sometimes undefinable — strands that connect us in love to another, whether we just met or have known each other for years.
There is a certain charge between two people that can indicate soul-level familiarity — and oftentimes when we feel it, we just know.
Frequently, it transcends the romantic connotation of soul mates and delves into the territory of soul friends and soul family.
How beautiful is it that we can have soul-deep caring in our lives from not only our romantic partners, but from close friends and family, too! We are all abundant of the heart, if we choose to let love in.
With love at first sight, besides having a soul connection, both personal and chemical compatibility also come into instantaneous play. Personal compatibility can be as simple as liking one another and as complex as developing a communication style that resonates with both partners.
Sometimes, in the first minutes of knowing someone, this personal compatibility can click... or not.
I believe we can sense part of what may come with personal compatibility when we first see a person. In reality, we are all immensely intuitive people and that intuition can contribute to our love at first sight experiences.
The ever-present, intensely complex world of chemical interaction between people is massively at play in love at first site scenarios, too.
For example, even from a distance, we can imperceptibly smell our chemical compatibility with a potential partner. A complex cacophony of scents and pheromones can pull us in — or repel us — instantly.
But what about the couples who meet virtually first? Do they get the chemical benefit of love at first sight?
Answering that question, at this point in time, is one hundred percent conjecture. No studies have been done on the topic. But, I’ll tell you my observation as a dating and relationship coach for the past fifteen years.
Sometimes, the chemical becomes the psychic, and people receive the same cues at a distance as they do in person. I have heard some pretty amazing stories of the psychic sense of smell affecting romance and attraction across the miles.
The real truth is that love, whether at first or second or two hundredth sight, is an unstoppable force of nature.
Soul connected people magnetize each other at the right times in a myriad magnificent ways, allowing our hearts to be stirred and nourished from within.
Love at first sight is real, and it happens all the time. So if you feel an unexpected soul connection with someone, don't be afraid to nurture and pursue it — you never know what could happen next.
Amy Leigh Mercree is an author, media personality, and dating, relationship, & wellness coach and medical intuitive. She speaks internationally focusing on kindness, joy, and wellness.
Mrs. Mercree’s book “The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex, and Soul Mates” is the empowered dater’s toolkit. Check out AmyLeighMercree.com for articles, picture quotes and quizzes. Mercree is fast becoming one of the most quoted women on the web. See what all the buzz is about @AmyLeighMercree on Twitter.