10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed (That Make Women NOT Want To Sleep With Them Again)

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10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed

Being good in bed is really important to women, and if you don't have the skills and moves to satisfy women, they'll be quick to let you go. Here are 10 sex mistakes men make in bed way too often. Dudes, make sure you’re not doing any of them.

1. You skip on the foreplay.

Women love foreplay. We adore being kissed and explored. We consider foreplay an essential part of sex. When we don’t indulge in foreplay, we feel like we’re being jipped. Skipping foreplay makes sex feel rushed.

Yes, there are times when sex is so passionate that foreplay is absolutely unthinkable. And then, it’s totally awesome. But when foreplay is regularly omitted, we’re not happy. Spend time kissing and caressing us, please.

2. You don't ensure we had an orgasm.

Sex is a two-way street. Just because you were satisfied, you can’t assume that we were too. Unless you made an effort to make it pleasurable for us, it may not have been. Keep in mind that not all women can have an orgasm on their own. Some women need a little extra assistance from you. Don’t think that we had an orgasm unless you tried to make it happen.

3. You don't want to explore our fantasies with us.

Women have fantasies! We thrive on emotions. We’ve read 50 Shades of Gray and we liked it. We gossip about sex just as much as you do, if not more. So, explore our fantasies. Ask us what we like and we’ve always wanted to try.

4. You don't manscape.

Manscaping is important to us. It’s almost necessary to us as us shaving our legs is to you. In case you’re not tuned into this new term, manscaping is defined as the removal or trimming of your hair “down there.” When you manscape, you’re making us happy. So, please do it.

5. You use the same positions.

Sex should never be predictable. Women don’t ever want to have sex in the exact same position every time. We like sex to be the opposite of routine. We want it to be sensual and exciting. Remember how you couldn’t keep your hands off of us in the beginning of the relationship? Well, we want you to always feel that way.

6. You refuse to perform oral sex on us.

Going “downtown” is an absolute necessity. Plain and simple, no explanation needed. It should be something you do very frequently because you know we love it.

7. You can't tell if we're faking it.

It’s your job to know your partner’s body. You have to be aware of her likes and dislikes. You want to make sex as enjoyable as possible for her (and you!). As a talented lover, you’re supposed to know if she’s faking it.

8. You finish way too quickly.

Coffee lines, doctor’s visits, and DMV appointments are all things that should be VERY quick. Sex, on the other hand, shouldn’t be. Some men have trouble lasting long enough for their partner to enjoy herself. Let’s hope you’re not one of those because this is one of the serious mistakes men make in bed.

You can’t put an estimated time on how long sex should be. There’s no universal average, because all women have different preferences. But it should be long enough to be pleasurable for both of you.

9. You don't take control.

Most of the time during sex, women want men to be in control. We want you to demonstrate to us that you’re our man. We like being flipped around and pushed up against walls. Be dominant and show off your manliness.

10. You won't stay and cuddle.

After sex, most women are filled with a lot of emotions. Our bodies have just released oxytocin, which causes us to be a little needier than usual. It’s our hormones fault, not ours! As a result, we like to relax for a few minutes after sex and sometimes even cuddle.

When you’re in a rush to go somewhere, you’re hurting our feelings. Stay and give us a few minutes of extra love.

What do women really want in bed? Check out the video below for some advice:


Carly Spindel is a Matchmaker and relationship expert who has introduced 110 couples. She is passionate about spreading love throughout the country.

This article was originally published at Confessions Of A Matchmaker. Reprinted with permission from the author.