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Over it.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Aug 07, 2017
The road to love has many unseen hazards and you never know when you’re going to cause something to blow up in your face, even if it's unintentional. And no matter what your daily horoscope has to say about your relationships, love is unpredictable and there will always be challenges.
There’s always the danger that you’ll do something that will cause your partner to lose interest. It’s tricky because you want to be your true self but you don’t want to scare a potential partner away. Is it possible to be 100 percent honest with someone and not end up horrifying them?
In the British show Crashing, there is a moment when a couple is in bed together and man prevents the woman from doing her usual getting up and going to the bathroom to fart. The man reasons that they’re engaged, living together, and should be comfortable enough to pass gas in front of each other, no matter what the consequences might be.
I won’t spoil what the outcome of this request is but it’s very funny and it brings up a good question: at what point can you start to relax around your boyfriend?
Check out the video below to find out why men lose interest in you once you express your feelings:
You want him to accept you and you don’t want to have to hide who you really are, but are there some things that are best kept hidden?
Have you ever been broken up with and had no clue why? Was it something that you did or did your partner simply lose interest in you? Was there something that you should have been aware of and tried to avoid that kind of behavior?
Astrology can give us an understanding of people and the things that scare them off. And your zodiac sign can tell a lot about what will make your partner lose interest lightning fast. They can also offer some insight on the triggers that the various signs have when it comes to relationships.
Relationships are complicated and it’s good to get help in navigating them any way that we can. So, here are the zodiac signs that lose interest quickly and who you should probably stay away from.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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This is going to sound old school, but don't aggressively chase after your man and don't give in too easily. The Aries man loves the chase but it must be him doing the chasing. If you're not challenging enough, you won't keep his interest for very long at all. I know it's so basic but you know you can go after him in ways that he's not fully aware of. If you prefer going after him, you should think of yourself as a spy on a covert mission.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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On the other end of the spectrum, away from Aries, is Taurus. And for Taurus, game playing is the surest way to lose him. You not only need to be honest about your intentions, but it would help if you're direct. Don't assume because you're being extra nice to him that he'll know you're into him, he'll just think that you're nice. Spell it out for him or he'll go on to someone that he knows is interested in him.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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Keeping a Gemini's interest can take some finesse — staying interested in someone isn't their superpower. If you want him to keep him fascinated, have interesting things to say. Be bold, have a sense of humor and a curiosity for many different topics, philosophies, and cultures. Geminis love to connect with people on a conversational level, so be a good talker and don't be afraid to voice your opinion.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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One of the oldest pieces of advice given to women to stimulate someone's interest was always, "Make them jealous." Well, for a Cancer that's the last thing you should do. If a Cancer gets jealous, they'll just walk away. They may obsess over it but they're not going to fight for you or try to win you back; they'll just decide that you have a problem with commitment. The jealousy strategy will never work on them and whoever gives you that advice clearly watches too many old sitcoms.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
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If you want to keep your Leo man, don't hog the spotlight. He's okay with you being the center of attention on occasion, but if you force him into a supporting role in your life, he'll be gone before you know it. He wants you to be spectacular in your own right as long as he isn't completely overshadowed. If you don't make sure to stroke his ego and let him shine, he's gonna go bye, bye, bye. That makes Leo one of the zodiac signs that lose interest quickly.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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If you want to keep your Virgo man, then you're going to have to stop complaining and whining as they have very little bandwidth for either of those things. They'd rather you tried to solve your problems than complain about them. They want their partners to be like them: problem solvers. Yes, sometimes you just need to vent, just don't do it around the Virgo man too much or you'll irritate the crap out of them.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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Don't be constantly in the Libra's man's face if you want to keep him around. He doesn't like someone who is too bold or brash and he can't handle a woman who is aggressively confrontational. He probably won't tell you why; he'll just ghost you and leave you wondering what you did. Subtlety goes a long way with a Libra and if you can circumvent something negative or unpleasant, do so.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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If you don't want a Scorpio guy to lose interest then don't hold back in physically expressing your desire. Scorpios are known for their tremendous sexual appetites and if you're not into sex or touching, anything between you will not last. He will, however, be brutally direct with you and tell you his complaints, giving you an opportunity to prove your love for him. Words don't cut it for a Scorpio, you've got to back them up with kissing, cuddling, hugs, and sex.
Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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What's that old joke? How do you make a Sagittarius man run away from you? Try to get him to commit too early in a relationship! Yeah, Sagittarius men get very skittish if they think they're being pressured to settle down. They crave independence and are terrified of being tied down. You can get him to commit but it has to be on his timetable.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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One way to get a Capricorn to lose interest is to be an irresponsible party girl. Do not make jokes about your horrible credit score or how you were fired from your last few jobs if you want to keep him. If he's dating you, he's considering what a long-term relationship with you might be like. If you seem too unstable and reckless, Capricorn won't want to waste his time on you.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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Aquarians can't handle too many feelings, so if you're prone to emotional outbursts, then you're not exactly good girlfriend material for an Aquarius. Crying, raging, swearing, and shouting are all things that make an Aquarius very uncomfortable, even if you're expressing happiness. It's not that you have to be emotionless, just don't be overly emotional or he'll put you right into the friend-zone.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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If you're highly strung and want someone who's always doing things, a Pisces man isn't for you. Pisces are laid back and they need time just to chill and contemplate. If you nag them or try anything to get them off their ass, they'll lose interest very quickly. They may look like they're being lazy but they have an active imagination and you don't know what they're planning.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One
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Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and teacher who loves writing and performing personal narratives. She's had pieces in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, Purple Clover, Bustle, and is a regular contributor to Ravishly and YourTango. Check out her website or her Facebook page.