4 Ways To Get ANY Girl To Like You (Without Changing Who You Are)

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How To Get A Girlfriend WITHOUT Changing Who You Are

She'll be ALL about you.

By David DeAngelo

Most “regular” guys assume they’ll always have to pursue great women to have any chance with them. But if you learn how to trigger her feelings of attraction and interest, great women will see you as a catch and start chasing you.

Here’s how:

1. Stop courting, start attracting


There are two basic models for how men approach meeting women — the “courtship” model and the “attraction” model. When you court a woman, her natural response is to run. So instead of focusing on how to woo her, focus on sparking her attraction.

Courting is what you DO, what you OFFER, and what you GIVE (like gifts, dinners, flowers, compliments). Attraction is how you communicate, who you are, and your masculine identity. Courting is facing the challenge… attraction is BEING the challenge. So start attracting… and you won’t BELIEVE how it can transform your success with women.

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2. Use “reverse rapport”

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Reverse Rapport” is when you say and do the opposite of what a guy would do who’s trying to make a woman like him… but in a sarcastic, playful way that assumes the woman already knows, likes, and trusts you.

How do you do this? Well, one way is to use a sarcastic comment that’s the opposite of what a woman wants to hear. When you do, you’ll create a deep, polarity-charged connection with her that will get her pursuing you in no time flat.

3. Don’t seek her approval

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Most men orient themselves by seeking approval of a woman. She leads, they follow… in fact, she’s not even trying to lead, but the man tries to convince her to lead with questions and body language that seek approval.

Instead, stay on course, even when she’s all over the map. Show her you’re the kind of man who loves to be the captain of your own ship… and she’ll feel an undeniable attraction to you.

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4. Show her that you are different from other needy men


Let’s face it… there are millions of needy, desperate guys out there, so it’s important that you communicate through your behavior that you are NOT one of them. And the best way to do it is to let a woman know that you have a life.

These tips show a woman you are confident, interesting man who doesn’t need her approval to feel good about himself or his life. 

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This article was originally published at eHarmony. Reprinted with permission from the author.