If He Doesn't Make An Effort, He's Not Interested (Let Him Go)

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Too often, we complicate how to figure out if a guy likes you or not. We analyze texts from our friends, stalk his social media and Google ourselves to death to find answers in articles such as this one. 

Trying to find hard evidence that the dude we’re into is just as into us is more difficult that it would be to just cut our losses and wait for a relationship with a guy who’s more clear.

While there are always exceptions and some guys really do play mind games, most don’t.

Well, the good ones don’t. 

Like most things in life, I don’t think you should have to try that hard to find love. If you’re working extra hard to make something happen, then it’s probably not going to happen.


Relationships aren’t born out of forced interaction and playing games. Falling in love is usually a lot simpler than it seems. 

You don’t have to conduct some grand experiment to see if a guy likes you. All you have to do is pay attention. 

If a guy is interested in getting to know you, then he’s going to try to get to know you.

He’ll ask you questions, make an effort to keep up the conversation and he’ll remember things you told him.

And more importantly than that, he’ll make an effort to hang out in real life. 

There won’t be canceled plans or last minute bails if he’s into you. He’ll set up time and day and follow through. He won’t waste your time because he actually respects it. 

So if you’re losing sleep trying to figure out why this guy acts like he like you when he sees you out at the bar on the weekends, but never texts you during the week, let me help you: he doesn’t.

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Let’s just say if he’s doing anything that makes you question the fact that he doesn’t like you, then he doesn’t like you. 

And if that’s the case, let it go. Don’t hold on or spend too much time questioning why.

Cut your losses and wait around for someone who’s willing to put in the time and effort you deserve.