Self, Sex

Smart Women Keep Their Sex Lives, Income And Next Move 100% Private

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I think it’s safe to say that some people overstep the boundaries of TMI when it comes to social media. 

While modern society encourages us to bare our souls and remain authentic and real — with the disguise of a few filters of course —there’s still a line you can cross. And people cross it all the time. 

I can’t tell you how many cringeworthy posts I’ve seen about people trash-talking sex with their exes, hating on their bosses and (in some very sad cases) talking negatively about themselves.

Many of these things are better kept confined within the walls of a therapist’s office or within the pages of a diary. 

Now, that’s not to say you should be embarrassed by your feelings and “suck it up and act happy” when you’re completely miserable. Your feelings are validated and you should have trusted people you can talk to about them. What you shouldn’t do is open up your wounds for the world to judge you — especially when you’re at a vulnerable place. 


It’s almost like we feel a need to explain our every move to everyone in our newsfeed, when really, it’s none of their business and you don’t need their validation to live the life you want to live. 

In this age of constant sharing, I think we need to revisit the art of holding back. Keeping some things to ourselves rather than posting about it.
Being private means that you’re living your life by your rules and your rules only.

You’re not opening up the floodgates to public opinion and risk being swayed by people who have something negative to say. You’re not working or living for approval or applause. You’re doing you. Simple as that. 

And while you should share some parts of your life, make it the superficial parts. A good rule of thumb is that if you wouldn’t talk about it to a room full of strangers, maybe don’t post it on the internet? 


I tend to be an over-sharer, so being private is something that doesn’t always come natural to me. But when I look it as I’m just holding back initially and I’ll share later — i.e. when the project is more complete or when me and that guy I’m sleeping with are actually dating — it makes a lot more sense. 

The lines between real life and social media get blurred on the daily.

Try to practice things that remind you how separate they are, and how real life is far more important than what you put online.