When You Love The Memories More Than The Person ... It's Over

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We all have moments where we want to go back to the way things were. 

The beginning of any relationship is full of butterflies, romance and hope for an exciting future with another person.

While you should by all means enjoy it, it shouldn't be downhill from there. 

Ideal partnerships are always a work in progress. People change on the daily, and your relationship will either grow from that or completely fall apart. The scary thing is, you have no way to predict where you both will go.


While there's no scientific formula to figure out just how long that honeymoon phase will last, it's important to pay attention to how you feel about the relationship once the romance starts to die down. 

The best kind of relationship is the one you can have fun in. Passion is great, but it isn't a foundation you can build a life on.

If you find yourself daydreaming about your first date or how he treated you when you first got together MORE than you're paying attention to how things are right now, then you've got a problem. 

Personally, that's always been a big red flag for me. Relationships need to be adaptable to survive, and if you're hanging on to the past, then you don't have much potential for a future. 


Of course, breaking up should never be something you do without a little thought and consideration first (in most circumstances). So before you call it quits because he doesn't buy you flowers anymore, make sure you have an honest, adult conversation about it.

There are obstacles in relationships and there are patterns. Obstacles can always be overcome with a little effort on both sides, but patterns are usually indicators that two people are just not meant to be. 

If you keep your eyes open and be honest with your heart, you'll know what to do.