Be Strong Enough To Let Go & Smart Enough To Know You Deserve Better

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Be STRONG Enough To Let Go & SMART Enough To Know You Deserve Better
Love, Self

Change never seems to come when you're ready for it. 

The dreaded "we need to talk," hurts even more when it's out of the blue, and can make the whole process of breaking up feel like the end of the world. 

But I promise, it's not. 

While it's tempting to cling on the happy moments of the past, you'll only prolong the inevitable. And you're stronger than that. 


Whether your S.O. just dropped a major earth-shattering truth bomb, or you've been feeling some serious "this needs to end ASAP" vibes, the best thing you can do for yourself — and your happiness — is to go with the flow. 

Don't try to control the outcome. Don't try to hold on to something that's ending. 

Rather than fighting your fate, accept it. Recognize it when you feel yourself kicking and screaming for things to stay the same, and instead, take a deep breath and let go. 


If you're finding that process a little difficult because up until now you were super happy and you can't completely fathom why your relationship is ending, then it's time to get real with yourself. 

Were you really happy? Was this really everything you've ever wanted? Or have you just been compromising your own happiness for the sake of not wanting to be alone? 

So make a list, read a book, talk to your mom, do whatever you need to do to make yourself realize the truth: you're breaking up because your relationship was broken. 


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Once you've fully accepted that it's over, the next thing you do is remind yourself of your worth. 

The period after a breakup is one for personal growth and reconstruction. It's about figuring about what you need from all your relationships, including the one with yourself. 

So instead of wallowing in your heartache, break up with the idea that breakups are the end of the world. 

Because really, they're just a beginning. 

Emily Blackwood is an editor and writer focusing on love and relationships.