Why You Could Be In A Toxic Relationship Without Even Knowing (And The 5 Differences Between True Love And Toxic Love)

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Why You Could Be In A Toxic Relationship Without Even Knowing It (And The 5 Major Differences Between True Love And Toxic Love)
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Although you might think it'd be easy to identify a toxic relationship, that's not always the case. Sometimes, a behavior that might seem like love is actually not at all. This is what happens when you're in a toxic relationship and don't even know it.

So, how can you tell the difference between a bad relationship and true love?

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Luckily, we've put together the 5 major differences between true love and toxic love. Let's dig right in.

1. Support

In true love, the development of self is most important. Both parties should want the best for one another. 

In toxic love, the primary focus is on the relationship itself, sometimes obsessing over how the two people involved interface.

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2. Freedom

In true love, there is comfort in separate interests. We can have our own friends and meaningful relationships outside of our romantic relationships. We can pursue interests and ideas without fear of reprimand. 

In toxic love, there is total involvement in one another's lives. One can't go anywhere without the other. This is codependency.

3. Individuality

In true love, there's no struggle in embracing the individuality of your partner. 

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In toxic love, there is an obsession with trying to change your partner into someone you'd rather be with, instead of loving them for who they are.

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4. Intimacy and sex

In true love, intimacy is a free choice that grows from love and trust and caring and friendship. 

In toxic love, sex is something you feel pressured over, due to fear, insecurity, and feeling as though you have to conform to the sexual desires of your partner.

5. Communication

In true love, every conversation is constructive, trying to understand, and help or convey affection to your partner. 

In toxic love, conversations are intended to blame, defend, or manipulate your partner.

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