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4 Types Of Toxic Relationships You Need To Avoid (& How To Spot The Signs)

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Signs Of An Unhealthy Or Toxic Relationship You Need To Get Away From
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Be aware of these destructive relationships.

A toxic relationship can be a different experience for everyone. But, they all end with exhausted and hurt emotions.

Sometimes, we end up dating toxic people and build the wrong kind of relationships — specifically, unhealthy and toxic relationships.

Constantly being in these kinds of relationships leads to confusion and distress for couples looking for a serious love commitment and a lifetime partnership.

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Some couples fighting through a toxic relationship might even go to the length of salvaging whatever they can. 

And there are many types of bad relationships that could be solved with just a little positivity and understanding. But, in reality, there are also a few types of relationships where the best solution is separation.

"Is my relationship healthy?" you may be wondering. And, in order to understand the effects and warning signs of a toxic and unhealthy relationship, you need a break down of the characteristics and behaviors that distinguish these dangerous relationships from good relationships.

So, here are the signs of the 3 types of unhealthy and toxic relationships that you need to get away from.

1. A dishonest relationship

  • Lying

Studies show that 60 percent of adults cannot carry out a short conversation without bending the truth a little. Consistent lying and dishonesty are emotionally destructive to both partners.

There's no room for a liar in a responsible relationship. Couples need to be honest, communicative, and respectful of one another.

  • Keeping secrets

According to Divorcemag, about 1 in 5 people are keeping secrets relating to infidelity. Like lying, secrets can hurt the respect between two partners and undermine trust.

It’s fine to have a little privacy about something in a relationship such as banks accounts. Your financial privacy can’t hurt someone emotionally. But, if you are seeing another person on the side, that can lead to issues.

  • Being defensive

Defensiveness is a reaction we get when there is a suspected threat or offense taken. Overly defensive behavior puts distance between a couple making it harder to communicate.

It can also raise suspicion and it could be perceived as one hiding something from the other.

  • Pleading for trust

Trust is a key element to all relationships, and what dishonest relationships obviously need. Lack of trust alienates people and it’s disrespectful to continuously show dishonesty towards somebody.

If one has to constantly beg their partner or spouse to “promise” them honesty, or always except the other to be dishonest, that shows a void of trust between close couples

2. An emotionless relationship

  • Emotionally unavailable

This is when one partner harbors emotions and leaves the other in the wind. Psychology Today says that giving your partner the cold shoulder makes them feel distanced, unimportant, rejected, and not a priority.

It has the same effects as dishonesty. Unfortunately, people often don’t realize how emotionally unavailable their partner is until they are well into a relationship.

  • Disconnection

Related to harboring emotions, disconnection and distance can lead to the same negative emotions of feeling rejected and insignificant.

But, when both parties tend to drift away from one another, it is a major sign of emotional disinterest.

  • Dismissive behavior

This leaves a strong void between two partners when one is dismissing the other’s emotions and conscious thoughts. A dismissive partner only wants to show their surface.

  • Lack of concern

Both partners may still have feelings for one another, but there is no real investment in the relationship. There is no strong empathy, no more long-term goals and no emotion for one another. Both have no real interest in each other.

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3. An abusive relationship

  • Manipulation

In healthy relationships, couples will get into occasional disagreements and arguments.

In an abusive relationship, an abuser will use hostility, aggressiveness, and manipulation to control their partner into having it their way.

  • Threats

An abuser will use physical threats against their partner in turn with manipulation. Other kinds of threats an abuser will use are emotional, verbal and psychological. Just because these threats don’t warn physical harm, doesn’t mean they are to be taken lightly. Verbal harassment and emotional threats can be classified as a domestic violence misdemeanor.

  • Violence

According to Reach Out, Australia’s leading online mental health organization for young people and their parents, the level of physical abuse gradually increases throughout a relationship.

An abuser will commit an act of violence against their victim and proceed to either blame the victim for causing a violent outburst, or the abuser will apologize and ask for forgiveness in order to make it hard for the victim to leave.

  • Possessiveness

An abuser will want their partner to always be with them, giving them no independence or freedom.

A possessive abuser will frequently call their partner when they are away, use excessive surveillance and keep them away from their own family.

Are these bad relationships repairable?

Some may have the potential to be turned into a positive one. For example, an abusive relationship is solved with the victim leaving their abuser and never going back, but leaving can be very difficult for victims. A victim might already have a family, a house, and finances shared with their abusive spouse. It can actually be very dangerous for someone to escape an abusive relationship.

(There are several resources such as domestic violence law experts and organizations such as the National Domestic Violence Hotline where trusted people help victims leave from an abusive relationship safely and peacefully with protection.)

How about non-abusive relationships? Can they be fixed?

It can be an emotionally draining and disenchanting experience when a once fruitful relationship starts to go sour. A relationship that is faced with complications or a lack of intimacy can have a chance to be fixed before it’s decided to cut ties.

Accountability, commitment, and understanding are key factors partners need when trying to mend a broken relationship.

Partners should discuss their feelings openly and listen to one another to address their state of emotions. Relationship counseling is also offered to couples who want to seek professional help from an expert.

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Brian Beltz is the head writer at Divorce Help 360. He writes guides, offers advice, and explores trends and pitfalls for those affected by or interested in divorce.

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