The Simple, Fairly Obvious Way To Never Be Unhappy Again

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The Simple Secret Of How To Be Happy

Most people would say their main goal in life is finding out how to be happy all of the time. But I don't agree with that pursuit.

To be happy all the time is not the reality for most human beings. It's very normal to have times when you feel unhappy.

If you are exceptionally self-actualized, you may be able to choose happiness in the moment. Let's take this "choosing happiness" concept onto the court of your life to see how you can be happier more often.


I've discovered a big secret about happiness, and it's one of the reasons I have an incredible life today. Digest this little secret and you are on your way to being consistently happier in your life. Don't over-analyze. It's taken me years, so be patient.

The secret to being happy is not about noticing when you're happy. It's about identifying when you are not happy — those times when you are off, cranky or discombobulated.

In these moments, you have the opportunity to take the first step to turning unhappiness into happiness again. Once you recognize you're unhappy, the next step is to stop to consider what would make you happy again.


Busy people typically charge through their day, thinking they can't stop, and that's the problem.

What if you paused and asked yourself, even for three seconds, what would make you happy in that moment?

What if the answer was one of these happiness game-changers?

  1. Taking a 20-minute walk.
  2. Taking a bath before cooking dinner.
  3. Indulging in an ice cream before that errand.
  4. Calling a friend before doing that report.


It's not that you shouldn't do what's on your to-do list. It's about being happy and enjoying your day in the midst of it.

It's not as much about choosing the emotion of happiness in every moment as it is about the actions you choose to take in every moment to create happiness.

Suzanne Muller-Heinz believes every person is capable of being in a healthy and fulfilling relationship. It just requires some new skills. She's the author of Loveable: 21 Practices for Being in a Loving & Fulfilling Relationship. If you're a woman ready to discover what's really possible for you, visit Happy Living Forever.

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