What Body Part Will Dramatically Improve Your Sex Life?

What Body Part Will Dramatically Improve Your Sex Life?

When it comes to better sex, all five senses and your brain can play a big role -- but there is something even more important -- your heart, according to a recent survey from Durex® and YourTango. The survey of more than 1,000 people from May 20 to June 17, 2013 shatters common misconceptions that sex is all physical and that no-strings-attached sex is more gratifying.

A whopping 96 percent of survey respondents said the best sex is had with someone with whom they are emotionally connected. Similarly, 92 percent of readers say it's a turn-on when their partner shows some vulnerability, an important part of emotional closeness.

The top confidence booster in bed? "Being with someone I love" according to respondents who ranked this highest followed by "feeling good about my sexual abilities," and "when my partner compliments me."

Of course, sex can still be skin deep. Respondents indicated that great sex cannot exist without "physical attraction," which was the highest ranked choice followed by "emotional intimacy" and "feeling secure/loved."

The best sex may be with a loved one, but how does it withstand the test of time? 90 percent of respondents indicated they believe it is possible for sex to actually get better after months or even years of being together.


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So, just how are committed couples keeping things hot? The survey revealed some surprising ways:

—Porn was actually the most popular bedroom booster: 57 percent of survey responders draw their sexual inspiration from porn and 48 percent from books.

—Nearly two-thirds of respondents believe that the porn industry is actually helping people have better sex.

—About half of respondents regularly use lubricants, vibrators and other sex toys in bed.

—To incorporate something new sexually, couples report these top three methods: talking about it while in bed, talking about it in a neutral place outside of the bedroom and first asking one's partner what he/she wants.

—Exactly 29 percent of people admit to initiating "dirty talk" through texts and emails while over 60 percent indicate they talk dirty between the sheets. Only 14 percent of respondents claim to never talk dirty.

—Two-thirds of respondents generally stick to the same 2-4 positions in bed while 27 percent rotate through 5-7 positions and occasionally try new ones.

"When people think of great sex, many often conjure up images of one night stands or Spring Break," says Laurent Faracci, chief strategy and marketing officer of Reckitt Benckiser USA. "Our research shows the contrary, that when you are with someone who wants only you, you feel confident enough to try out new things and express your fantasies, which in turn leads to more intimacy and even better sex between partners. At heart, Durex inspires and embarks lovers on a journey to more intimacy, 'sexploration' and better sex."

YourTango CEO Andrea Miller agrees. "We've been conditioned by the media to believe that sex is primarily physical and a couple's sex life will inevitably fizzle with time. However, these findings indicate just the opposite — getting closer on an emotional level is the key to getting closer physically."

Want to learn more? Through June 30, YourTango is publishing The Power of Intimacy, a content series that takes a closer look at how getting closer emotionally strengthens relationships and couples' sex lives.

YourTango used SurveyMonkey to survey 1,096 people between May 20 and June 17, 2013.