I'm Straight, So Why Do I Keep Fantasizing About Guys?

The Sinclair Institute's Dr. Lori Buckley explains the nature of sexual fantasy.

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Do you have sexual fantasies with same-sex partners? Are you wondering if this makes you gay? If so, help is on the way.


In this video, sex therapist and YourTango Expert Dr. Lori Buckley of the Sinclair Institute says that same-sex partner scenarios are "quite common when it comes to sexual fantasies." There's one way to know whether it's an innocent fantasy or a sign of your true sexuality.

These kinds of fantasies are confusing and sometimes embarrassing to admit. "Why am I dreaming about gay sex? Could I be gay?" But they may not be anything to worry about. If they are trying to tell you something, there are ways to find out what. Many people have fantasies that they don't actually want to happen. It is often just about curiosity or a particular feeling that you are not being given in your everyday life.


Don't think you are wrong for having these types of sexual fantasies. We all have ones, some we are not proud of or even comfortable sharing with others. But examining these desires will tell you what your subconscious is trying to tell you about yourself.

Want to learn more? Check out the video above!