How Do I Stop Holding A Grudge About Everything?

How to move above and beyond past wrongdoings.

By Bonnie Weil — Written on Feb 21, 2012

When someone hurts you or offends you in some way, do you have a hard time letting it go? Do you hold grudges against these people for a long time, even though you'd just like to move on? How Do I Avoid Making The Same Mistakes In New Relationships?

In this video, Therapist, Author and YourTango Expert Dr. Bonnie Weil helps a reader who has the tendency of holding such grudges against anyone who has ever hurt her. She says it affects everything she does and she doesn't want it to ruin her new relationship.

Dr. Bonnie reminds us all that "forgiveness is a gift you give yourself," and that holding such resentment for another person, especially your partner, can have very unfortunate consequences. Learn why letting go of past wrongdoings and forgiving the people who've let you down is the best strategy for happy relationships.