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Relationships are difficult enough as it is.
By Emily Ratay — Written on Jul 17, 2021
Whether you are just getting to know someone new or you have been in a serious relationship for years, you are constantly learning something new about your partner.
But there are some things you should never say to a guy, even in the learning phase.
Even if you try to phrase what you want to say in a way that makes it sound like you're being helpful, it can still be very upsetting to hear certain things from someone you love.
Everyone reacts differently to certain accusations and brutal remarks, no matter how true they may be.
According to your zodiac sign, there might be one thing that your partner can say that causes you to lose all trust for them, whether they tell you during an argument or just in casual conversation. Therefore, if that is true, then it is just as possible for you to say something that really upsets them, too.
Here is a list of the things you should never say to a guy, based on his zodiac sign.
1. Aries (Mar 21 - Apr 19): "You're being standoffish."
Your Aries man forms relationships super fast, thanks to his sociable personality and ability to have a friendly attitude toward most anyone.
He vibes best with people who think like him, especially if that includes always trying to better themselves and always looking for fun.
Depending on how strong your relationship is, you might feel a little out of his league.
He will constantly make an effort to include you, especially if he loves you, but if you act like his interests aren’t important to you, he can become a little moody.
That said, it is never a good idea to call him standoffish. He may be a lot of things (including a strong personality), but he's never stuck-up or snobbish.
2. Taurus (Apr 20 - May 20): "You don't care about me."
There's an assumption that men don't want commitment, but the truth some guys are searching for just that.
A Taurus man loves hard and he likes being a part of a successful, long-term healthy relationship.
Love is so important to him that often he gets caught up in trying to get to know as much about you as he can in a short amount of time.
You know that he loves the people in his life with his whole heart. Accusing him of not caring about you is not only untrue, it’s also incredibly insulting. Maybe he shows love differently than you do, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you at all; he takes pride in going the extra mile for his partner.
3. Gemini (May 21 - June 20): "You're wasting my time."
He sometimes prefers casual hookups to serious relationships, so when he finds someone he really loves, it’s very special to him.
It might take some time to get him to open up and be completely himself, but it’s definitely worth the wait.
You should never tell a Gemini that he's wasting your time because while he knows he can be indecisive at times, that doesn’t mean he isn't putting any effort into your relationship.
Saying something along these lines only makes him feel like he doesn’t deserve love.
4. Cancer (June 21 - July 22): "I don't trust you."
He makes a great partner because he knows what it takes to make a relationship last.
He's confident in his ability to be loyal to you and loves to make you feel good about yourself.
That said, he can sometimes feel insecure about how his partner feels about him, making him revert to thinking negatively about the relationship or acting suspicious of you.
Accusing him of being untrustworthy when you start to feel him pulling away from you will only make things worse.
It isn’t that he doesn’t want to try anymore, but maybe there are some personal issues he is trying to work through that are hard to talk about.
5. Leo (July 23 - Aug 22): "You're asking too much of me."
He usually knows exactly what he wants in a partner, which is why he's so adamant about getting what he's looking for from your relationship.
He might seem a little high-maintenance, but in reality, he isn't afraid to admit that he deserves the best.
Telling him that he's asking for way too much in a relationship isn’t honest, it’s a low blow.
When he really loves someone, he tries to tone down his individualistic mindset in order to make you feel appreciated. It might take time for him to get there, but outright letting them know that he's failing will make him feel worthless.
6. Virgo (Aug 23 - Sep 22): "You don't know anything about me."
Your guy puts a lot of time and effort into making a relationship worthwhile for both of you.
For him, that means getting to know everything about you so that the two of you can get even closer.
Without all this intimate knowledge, he feels lost in your relationship.
You should never tell him that he doesn't know anything about you.
Whether he remembers small details about your life or surprises you with your favorite things, he is always looking out for you because he truly loves you.
Making him feel like a stranger will only make him feel like he doesn't know anyone at all.
7. Libra (Sept 23 - Oct 22): "You're a people-pleaser."
He goes above and beyond when it comes to relationships, putting in extra effort to make sure that both people are happy.
This usually means that he makes compromises so that it doesn’t feel like he is asking for too much.
This is a great quality to have, especially since he is the last person to get stubborn over not getting his way.
His ever-diplomatic nature doesn’t make them feel weak unless you say something about it.
If you tell him that he's acting weak-willed, he will question his entire personality and selfless nature. He wants the people he loves to appreciate him for this, not in spite of it.
8. Scorpio (Oct 23 - Nov 21): "You're being crazy."
Scorpio has a lot of passion for life, so he often gets a little excitable when talking about what (or who) he loves.
He takes pride in being able to bring a winning personality and excitement to a relationship, and he hopes their partner can do the same.
He can take a lot of criticism, but one of the worst things you can say to him as a significant other is telling him that he's crazy.
He should never be punished for his personality, no matter how “out there” he might seem.
All he wants is someone who can love him unconditionally and add passion to his life, not take it away.
9. Sagittarius (Nov 22 - Dec 19): "You're being fake."
He makes friends with almost everyone he meets, but it takes someone very special for him to fall in love.
He's flirty and outgoing, making it easy to see why so many people like him.
He isn't looking for someone who will make him want to change his personality, but rather someone who sees all the good he has inside.
If your significant other is a Sagittarius, you should never call him fake.
It might be hard for him at first to be upfront about his feelings since he's trying to get comfortable with a serious relationship, but don’t try to find fault with this; good things take time.
He might sometimes try to get out of disagreements or make you feel better by saying what you want to hear, but being honest with him is better than insulting him.
10. Capricorn (Dec 20 - Jan 19): "You're not being loyal."
He wants nothing more than to be in a serious, long-term relationship with someone he truly loves.
He is a firm believer in making it work, no matter how much time and effort he has to put into the relationship.
Even when it gets hard, a Capricorn knows that it’s worth it.
Because he's always trying to make his relationship work and keep you happy, it is a terrible idea to accuse him of not being loyal to you.
Whatever reason you might have to feel like you should say this, a Capricorn will call you ou,, but not before questioning his own values.
If he's putting in that much effort, then he really does love you and would never be disloyal.
11. Aquarius (Jan 20 - Feb 18): "You're being selfish."
He can sometimes find it difficult to trust someone completely and fall in love with them, but it isn’t impossible.
That said, he does expect you to believe in the same things he does, especially honesty and strong values.
Even in a serious relationship, he appreciates having some alone time where he can recharge his batteries and enjoy his independence.
This doesn’t mean he doesn't care about spending time with you, or even that he only thinks of himself at all. That said, you should never accuse him of being selfish.
Not only is it hurtful, but it also makes him feel like he can’t have a relationship without giving up his whole self.
And if that is the case, he will choose himself over his partner.
12. Pisces (Feb 19 - Mar 20): "You're overreacting."
Pisces is a lover and a romantic at heart, and he loves having someone to appreciate and care for.
He tries to treat you in a way that he would want to be treated, which is why he is so selfless to his partner.
Differences and disagreements can sometimes overwhelm him, but he still tries his best to make things work.
Telling him that he overreacts often makes him feel like his opinions and feelings aren’t valid.
Just because you wouldn’t handle something the same way a Pisces does, doesn’t mean he's doing something wrong.
Love him for who he is, not for who you think he should be.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes.