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Why The Hard Times You Go Through Are A Blessing In Disguise

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By Louis Scarantino

Everything you care about is slowly fading away.

You feel like everything and everyone you love is just disappearing in a blink of an eye. It’s so unexpected that you don’t know how to react.

Your girlfriend/boyfriend just broke up with you. You lost a loved one to the skies of heaven. Your friends moved far away.

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What’s the feeling like? Horrible, depressing, and you’re not going to be okay. Wrong — it’s normal when you’re going through something like this.

You should use these times as a blessing rather than a misery.

A Christian artist named Amy Grant sings a song named “Better than a Hallelujah.” Although not written by her, she has made the song popular.

I know there are plenty of songs you can listen to that give you that message. However, this one will give you that message the same way as the others.

Your now ex-girlfriend/boyfriend may find someone else before you. That doesn’t mean you won’t find someone else, too.

Heartbreaks over them will make you stronger in the end. I know it doesn’t seem like it when the pain is still fresh. The pain will be there for a while. But slowly but surely, it heals.

Your loved one you lose will be looking down at you from the skies of heaven. He/she still loves you. Their spirit in the sky will still be with you for the rest of your days.

They would want you to go on with your life. They’re proud of you for whatever else you can accomplish in your life.

We pour out our miseries, God just hears a melody. Beautiful the mess we are, the honest cries of breaking hearts. Just like she sings it with so much heart, passion, and the powerful words singing out of her mouth.

She sings it so beautifully too, and I can tell she can get a little emotional when singing it. I’m sure she knows how powerful it is to sing this song.

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It’s going to suck. You’re going to feel sucky. You’re going to feel like you suck. But that’s actually OK!

It’s OK to feel that way once in a while, but as a blessing not a misery. It will get you to what the best is going to bring for you from this point on.

Tears of shame for what’s been done. The silence when the words won’t come. Like in the song.

You’re going to cry and have silence and the answers aren’t going to come right away. But, they’ll be here if you believe in God that he’s going to help you get through these times.

God will get you through these times no matter what if you believe he will. Please don’t give up hope no matter what it is. You’ll be OK and things will be OK.

Talk to someone. If no one is around, the man upstairs is there 24/7 if most people you know aren’t. He will listen.

Listen to the song and you’ll see what I’m talking about!

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Louis Scarantino is a motivational speaker, writer, and author of two books entitled “Finding Love on the Spectrum: An ASD Guide to Dating" and “Autism: The Unstoppable Achiever.” He's spoken on or has been featured on CBS, ABC, FOX, NBC, The Mighty, USA Today, and others.

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This article was originally published at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.