Read This If You've Ever Been Labeled As 'Intimidating'

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By Ashlyn Thomson

Hi hun,

I know you’ve been feeling very neglected and out of place these past few weeks and I’m here to tell you why.

You see, you have tremendous potential but it is potential everyone else can see. You are trying to be focused on the future, being kind to everyone, and being ambitious to reach those goals, while everyone around you sees your greatness.

It does kind of feel like a wall between you and everyone else, but that is why you’re so different — a good different.

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I know all your friends get the boys — multiple boys at that — and you’re just there thinking that you aren’t enough. That she has something you don’t have.

Well, my dear, that is not true. You are brave, you are selfless, you are kind, and she may be as well, but it’s the way that you carry yourself that makes you different.

You hold your head up high because that’s what you’ve always done; it’s what you’ve been taught. For you, these boys right now are looking for fun. That’s it. And because you are thinking of more than just the fun part, it makes the other girls easy targets.

You are wanting a man, not a boy, and they are harder to come across than these silly boys who only want one thing.

So no, it is not because she is prettier than you. No, it is not because of your hair, height, or weight; it is because of your personality and even though you may not see it, these boys do.

So wait. Wait until you finish school and become a part of the real world because then mostly everyone is on the same page.

Everyone shines their own light and it is okay to do so; then you’ll be the one looking for a man and having the right places to find him. Don’t settle for a boy when you deserve a man.

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I know you get picked on a lot, and I know you shrug it off like it’s no big deal, but one day it will hit you and you will come crashing down. Don’t worry, that’s normal.

See, strong women like you, try very hard, and succeed, at making people happy. The only thing you have to know is that you need to be happy too. You need to be happy first, but in a polite manner, so think about yourself every once in a while.

Also, relax because your future is not planned out. You still do not know what will happen, and nor should you.

I know you have zero patience but just relax. Relax and enjoy your time, enjoy life, enjoy yourself, because one day it’ll be here and you’ll find your passion, and finally have the future somewhat decided!

Trust me on this one.

Trust is hard to come by with you; it’s one of the things that makes you unique. You believe more than what the eyes see, but you also have a guard. A guard you keep it up all the time, which isn’t bad, but remember to let it down once in a while. Not only to learn but to live.

Make mistakes and learn from them. How else are you supposed to grow?

Lastly, stay true to yourself. As you grow up and life keeps hitting you with different obstacles just remember one thing: you are you for a reason. Remember who you are, your attributes, your desires, and your ambition.

Just remember that it is who you are and will continue to bring you to where you need to be!

Love always,

An intimidating girl

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Ashlyn Thomson is a writer and musician who writes primarily about relationships and self-improvement topics.

This article was originally published at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.