People Who Are Naturally Charismatic Often Use 12 Phrases That Make Everyone Feel Important
ASphotowed | Canva Charisma isn't necessarily defined by a singular trait, but rather by body language and confidence-centered mindsets that influence likability. With the right concoction of intentionality and introspection, naturally charismatic people tend to energetically attract the best kinds of attention.
Luckily for people struggling with making a great impression, charisma is an entirely learnable skill, as experts from the Harvard Business Review suggest. By using some of the phrases highly charismatic people use to make everyone feel important, you can put your most confident foot forward.
Naturally charismatic people often say these things casually:
1. 'I understand how you feel'
Making people feel heard in conversation isn't just rooted in intentional active listening, but in creating a safe space for people to express their emotions and feel supported in doing so.
By trying to see things from their perspective and offering words of encouragement throughout a conversation, naturally charismatic people validate others in ways that build confidence.
2. 'I appreciate you'
Yearning to feel validation and appreciation in conversation is an innately human need, according to experts from the Harvard Business Review, and the better we become at feeding into it, the more wholesome and fulfilling our connections become. Naturally charismatic people find ways to make the most of small moments, expressing empathy and kind praise to people, which makes everyone feel appreciated.
3. 'How can I support you?'
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Naturally charismatic people offer their help and love to others yearning to feel heard, according to public speaker Dr. John C. Maxwell. By learning about others, from their struggles to their quirky personality traits, they find ways to be of service to others, even if it's just by lending a listening ear.
4. 'You're special to me'
Meaningful conversations thrive when active listening techniques are used, something that naturally charismatic people excel at. By showing a thoughtful interest in other people and asking intentional questions, they can make people feel special.
5. 'Thank you for sharing your time with me'
There's power in reminding people that you're grateful for their presence, and the most naturally charismatic people find moments to ensure the people in their lives feel loved and secure. According to experts at the Mayo Clinic Health System, expressing gratitude isn't just fulfilling for relationships, but also for our own mental & emotional health.
6. 'I take full responsibility for that'
Naturally charismatic people bond with others by taking accountability, even if it's something as simple as a leader at work taking responsibility for something that went wrong that wasn't necessarily their fault. By setting their own ego aside, charismatic people not only motivate themselves to be better, but others to join them.
7. 'Tell me more about your experience with that'
Finding shared experiences is a go-to move of naturally charismatic people. People love to talk about themselves, and charismatic people know that.
8. 'I trust your judgment'
According to leadership coach Christina R. Wilson, there are several ways to build trust in a relationship, most of which are rooted in clear communication. This is one of the phrases highly charismatic people use to make everyone feel important — by showing that you value their opinion and trust their judgment.
9. 'Would you mind if I offered you a suggestion?'
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There's a time and place for advice, and naturally charismatic people understand that offering their own unsolicited advice isn't always helpful. Before giving advice, the most charismatic people know to ask someone if they're open to it first.
10. 'I've enjoyed talking to you; let's stay in touch'
Naturally charismatic people have a knack for turning small connections into longer, more fulfilling relationships. Leaving another person with a sense of positivity and excitement, a phrase like this opens the door to a deeper connection down the road.
11. 'You handled that situation with incredible grace'
Many of the phrases naturally charismatic people use to make everyone feel important revolve around healthy, intentional praise. As a study published by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology explains, when we share praise with others, they tend to associate those good traits with us/
12. 'I believe in you'
Leadership experts from Business Training Works argue that being able to lead with charisma and positivity often delivers more positive results. By making people feel heard and valued, two facets of active listening, naturally charismatic people both empower others to be their best.
Zayda Slabbekoorn is a senior editorial strategist with a bachelor’s degree in social relations & policy and gender studies who focuses on psychology, relationships, self-help, and human interest stories.
