True Introverts Have A Hard Time Being Around People With 4 Emotionally Draining Habits
Pintau Studio | Shutterstock Introverted people enjoy quiet alone time in order to recharge.
They do like socializing on their own terms, but certain behaviors drain them emotionally. They don't hate people, but they really can't stand it when interactions become stressful. So, they tend to avoid these situations altogether.
True introverts can't be around people with these emotionally draining habits
1. Seeking attention and validation from others
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When people seek out attention and validation from external sources instead of themselves, they're self-centered at best and selfish at worst. Attention-seekers tend to interrupt conversations, but expect to be met with kindness.
Introverts see this as incredibly rude. They want to spend time with others and be there for them, but validating a person for no reason isn't something they do.
It's immediately draining for them. They may become quiet, which the attention-seeker sees as rude, but they don't have the energy or space to get involved in a narcissistic conversation.
People who need attention make others feel uncomfortable and embarrassed, and take joy in seeing how far they can drive people to the edge. So, it's no wonder introverts don't want to be around people who act this way.
2. Getting into arguments for no reason
Argumentative people can make introverts extremely uncomfortable. It takes every ounce of their energy to even be near someone who wants to argue just for the sake of it.
Introverts know everyone has their own opinions and are generally open-minded about that, but when things get hostile, they find their energy draining right away. They're not interested in conversations turning into fights.
Instead, they keep their thoughts to themselves. They know that if they speak up or try to calm tensions, the other person will shut them down. And it can cause them to not even want to socialize for fear of being verbally attacked.
3. Being disrespectful to feel superior
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When people ignore their boundaries, introverts feel disrespected. But that's often the other person's intent. They're blatantly disrespectful to feel better about themselves and come off as more superior.
If an introvert stays quiet when they're disrespected, as they want to ease their discomfort, the other person will nag them or call them out. They simply don't understand why they aren't being met with kindness as a response.
But introverts prefer solitude for this very reason. Alone time allows them to relax and feel unbothered, while steering clear of emotionally draining situations.
It takes a lot of energy for them to want to be around people anyway. So, if interacting with rude people means tolerating this behavior, they'll just stay home.
4. Acting overly sensitive when things don't go their way
Sometimes, people take things way too personally, and it can make them feel lonely as a result. Introverts may take things personally at times, but when they're being attacked, they distance themselves.
When things aren't going their way, emotionally draining people perceive an introvert's quietness as offensive. They don't get why introverts aren't up for socializing and take it to heart.
Their reaction is what drains introverts right away. They feel misunderstood and like they can't do anything right. Even if they try to explain themselves, an emotionally sensitive person may not understand. After all, they're often prone to reactions that don't match the situation.
Allison Peterson is a writer with a degree in English from the University of Nevada, Reno. She writes on relationships, lifestyle, and mental health topics.
