People Who Think Talking On The Fly Is Easier Than Following A Script Usually Have 6 Distinct Traits
PeopleImages | Shutterstock There are many benefits for people who find it easier to improvise a conversation rather than following a script. It's a rare gift to organize your thoughts without prepping beforehand.
Adaptability is one of the key components of social intelligence, and it's something that produces good conversationalists. However, people who find it easier to talk on the fly actually share distinct traits that set them apart from their more planned-out peers.
Traits of people who find it easier to talk from the heart without prepping in advance:
1. They are extroverts
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People who find it easier to talk on the fly are usually extroverted. This is because extroverts naturally focus outwardly rather than inwardly, unlike their introverted counterparts.
This allows them to focus more on what's going on around them, including people who randomly come up to them to strike up a conversation. In fact, they're probably more likely than not to start conversations with strangers.
2. They're curious and ask questions
Having insatiable curiosity is one of the key strengths that people who can improvise a conversation have in spades. These are the people who are always asking questions and genuinely want to know more about the people around them.
They don't feel the need to follow a script because it would disrupt the natural flow of the conversation. They'd rather let their curious nature take the wheel, asking all sorts of questions to get people talking on the fly. Organic conversations are where true relationships and bonds are formed.
3. They understand that listening is more important than talking
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Though being able to talk on the fly is a skill in itself, people with this ability also understand the importance of active listening. They inherently know that you can't really have a good conversation with someone if you don't pause and let the other person have a chance to speak.
This goes hand in hand with being curious and asking questions. It's one thing to ask questions, but it's another thing to be willing to let the person answer thoughtfully without interruption. Talking on the fly makes it much easier to listen carefully without thinking about what to say next.
4. They are comfortable sharing personal information about themselves
When you're able to talk to people randomly, you sort of have to be able to self-disclose in order to keep the conversation going. This is not to say that these people are going to share their deepest, darkest secrets all of the time. Oversharing can have the opposite effect, and people who are great at talking on the fly really understand how to toe the line.
They're better at drawing from their own library of thoughts and feelings on all sorts of things, opening the floor for others to talk about theirs as well. They share in order to make the people around them more comfortable, which helps them to feel understood and willing to open up.
5. They're comfortable with awkwardness
Part of what many experts say about what makes a good conversationalist is that a lot of them have gotten over the feeling of awkwardness that sometimes comes with speaking to people without preparation.
Anything from saying "hi!" to someone who didn't hear you to when another person refuses to match your energy, these improvisational talkers can let that feeling of awkwardness go much faster than people who stick to the script.
6. They can generate ideas rapidly
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Last but not least, people who find it easier to talk on the fly rather than follow a script have a keen ability to generate ideas quickly. This agile approach to conversation allows them to bounce around from topic to topic with very little mental fatigue.
While people who need structure might freeze up when asked about ideas that don't align with the script, people who talk from the heart can easily switch gears mid-conversation. They're constantly thinking about everything, and they're going to want to share these ideas with the people around them.
Luke Aliga is a writer with a degree in Technical Writing and Communication who covers relationships, culture, and human-interest topics.
