6 Things Women Do Differently Once They Realize No Man Is Coming To Rescue Them
Vaivography Photos | Pexels Despite Charlotte York's assertion that “women really just want to be rescued,” the truth is Prince Charming only exists in fairy tales.
Women who realize that a man won't suddenly come save them have learned how to save themselves, and that means they live a more fulfilling life. They haven't given up on romance, but they've learned to want a love that is chosen, not needed in desperation.
How women who aren't waiting around for a man to rescue them live their lives differently:
1. They focus on their career
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Most women grew up with a Disney movie version of romance as their ideal. They were inadvertently taught that a man would ride in on a white horse and sweep her off her feet, never to worry about anything ever again.
When reality comes knocking, women who realize they aren't going to be rescued and that they don't need to be will start As a pursuing their own ambitions. For many women, this starts with their career.
Instead of relying on men to provide, women are starting to provide for themselves. In fact, data indicates that women are leading the charge when it comes to entry-level jobs in the workforce, and their role in the job market is only growing.
2. They nurture their friendships regardless of their relationship status
The power of female friendships among women should not be underestimated. In fact, a 2011 study found that women with early-stage breast cancer were four times more likely to die from cancer if they didn't have very many female friends. They also reported that women with a larger group of friends with early-stage breast cancer had a much better survival rate.
And those are just the physical benefits. The emotional importance of women's friendships is large too. Women are each other’s emotional-support system. It’s important to cultivate these friendships because at the end of the day, men may come and go, but your friends will always be there.
Unfortunately, there are many instances when women enter relationships and their friendships get put on hold. Women who don't center their world around a man make the time to nurture their friendships so that doesn't happen because they know the value of their support system.
3. They embrace hobbies and are happier and healthier for it
Sometimes when women are in relationships, they say that they lose who they are. That's because they stop investing in their interests and focus all their attention on their partners and families.
Single women, on the other hand, may try to cultivate hobbies that they believe make them more attractive to men instead of focusing on things they actually enjoy.
Women who don't feel like they need a man to live a fulfilling life don't do either. They embrace their interests without guilt or shame. As a result, they reap the benefits of better mental and physical health.
4. They love to explore and travel even if they only go on adventures solo
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Some women put their lives on hold in the hopes that everything they want to do will be somehow more fulfilled with a partner. Women who stop waiting for a man live life regardless of whether they are in a romantic relationship or not, and that includes traveling the world.
Whether solo or with girlfriends, traveling is an important part of life. It builds independence, and it’s the best way to learn about other cultures. Not waiting to vacation with men will make your life more fulfilling.
5. They prioritize self-improvement
According to a Thriveworks study, 62% of Americans have consulted with a therapist regarding mental health issues, but only 27% are actively in therapy. There are likely many reasons for this, such as financial constraints and mental health stigma.
According to the study, a whopping 78% of men said they’re more comfortable sharing things with a therapist compared to 68% of women, which makes you wonder why women are more hesitant to explore mental health support. According to therapist Elizabeth Chamberlain, it starts in childhood.
Boys are more likely to act out than girls, and that makes support from therapists and social workers more accessible and expected. The stigma sticks for lack of a better way to say it. It's okay for men to struggle with controlling their emotions and not okay for women to have the same issues.
Women who don't need to be rescued are perfectly comfortable exploring all avenues of self-improvement, including therapy. They aren't afraid of big feelings, and they aren't afraid of embracing them.
6. They embrace their own sense of style
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Many women dress according to the male gaze. There’s nothing wrong with that; it’s human nature to want to be wanted. However, this becomes a problem when a woman loses sense of herself.
Women who don't struggle with the damsel in distress concept cut their hair short if they want to. They wear as much makeup as they like and clothes that make them feel comfortable and attractive. They don't seek approval for their taste.
Sophie Bagheri is a writer with a bachelor’s degree in English and theatre who covers lifestyle topics.
