11 Things High Value People Love That Normal People Can't Stand
High value people thrive under circumstances that normal people could never handle.
mentatdgt / Shutterstock Being a high-value person in a world that encourages people to give up at the first sign of struggle can be tough. Things like being able to accept constructive criticism are just a few of the things that normal people can't stand, while high-value people love them. These types of people are of a higher caliber, the type that do whatever they want to do without needing someone else's validation.
Their ability to embrace solitude and challenge conventional thinking surprises many of the people who know them. What sets them apart from others is not just their confidence but their relationship with discomfort. They go through the same burdens that normal people do. The difference is that they don't sulk in it, but instead look on the bright side of life.
Here are 11 things high-value people love that normal people can't stand
1. Solitude
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There's nothing more comforting to a high-value person than sipping a good cup of coffee while home alone. Where normal people would normally get agitated from being alone in the house for so long, people who prefer their solitude enjoy being in their homes alone. It offers a sense of peace from the outside world that is full of noise and discord.
People experience more positive effects of solitude when they choose to be alone, especially after having a socially active day. Solitude makes their inner world quiet for only a short moment. To be high value means to stick by the things that you value the most, and these types of people value their quiet time.
2. Constructive criticism
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Some people can't handle criticism, especially in the workplace. It can be hard for an employee to muster up enough courage to tell their manager that something they are implementing isn't working. Normal people can't stand when they are being criticized because they take it as a personal attack, but people who value feedback are a different breed entirely.
Negative feedback without any constructive intent can lead to negative emotions, such as shame and discouragement, because it offers no alternative avenue for improvement. People who value self-improvement want a chance to change their situation, not maintain it. If they don't, they will feel stuck, unable to progress toward whatever they are trying to accomplish.
3. Boundaries
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People who respect their own boundaries have value in their beliefs. They recognize their limits and know what makes them comfortable. Some people don't understand this or won't even try to set boundaries against people who take advantage of them.
It's not all on them, but the more you let someone get away with pushing at your boundaries, the more they will push the envelope to try and upset you. People are well aware of how they're behaving and that something bothers them. That's why, when it comes to setting boundaries with them, you shouldn't back down or even flinch.
4. Routines
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Everyone is different when it comes to how they feel about having routines. While some love them, others can't stand them. Those who love them do so because these routines reduce stress and allow them to plan things ahead of time. Whether it's getting up in the morning to wash their faces or brewing up their favorite cup of coffee.
Routines offer balance and stability, but for some, they can become quite repetitive. Some people dislike having to do the same thing every day, so they prefer to live chaotically, where every day is a mystery. While some might love this, it can cause certain individuals high anxiety or a fear of uncertainty, as they are unsure of what will be planned each day.
5. Responsibility
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Some people take on more responsibilities than others will care to notice while at home. However, people who love taking on these roles often have high values that others might find overwhelming. A mother doing her entire family's laundry might seem like a lot of work to others, who would rather leave it there or make each member do it on their own.
It's important to remember that responsibility is not just in the things that you do, but also in how you show up and what you say. Too many people within society dodge personal responsibility if they feel it's too hard. However, those who understand that being responsible is just a natural part of being an adult are the most beloved type of people to be around.
6. Discomfort and challenges
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Going through personal struggles will have you on the greatest journey of your lifetime. People perform best in a state of optimal anxiety or slightly outside of their comfort zone, which high performers frequently seek. It's a chance to prove your skills further than ever before.
These types of people also get to know themselves better during this process, seeing what they have learned and how far they have come. Most people struggle to sit through the most uncomfortable times of their lives, eager to learn, and so they can't stand it when challenges suddenly come their way. It's all about maintaining a healthy mindset, especially when things don't go your way or you hit a bump in the road.
7. Learning from failure
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No one will succeed at everything, all of the time, so to be a person who knows how to not only accept it but work through is not an easy spot to be in. People who actively reflect back on their failures learned more effectively than those who didn't. Similar to feeling discomfort or challenges, feeling your failure is all about staying in a positive mindset.
The more you let a failure consume you, the less likely you are to try again or better your situation. People of a high caliber commit to their goals to the bitter end and are resilient enough to keep going without backing down. All they do is give themselves that extra push to keep moving along.
8. Emotional control
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Normal, everyday people sometimes struggle to hold their emotions back in stressful situations. When everyone seems to be coming at you from every corner with a problem, it can get overwhelming to keep your head on straight. Some break under pressure and let it all out in a public manner, while others try to keep their composure as best they can.
These individuals are truly resilient because it's not easy to stay calm when your emotions are all over the place. Sometimes it's not even the other person's fault either. Personal issues at home or even at work can stress us to the point where we are snapping at others.
9. Reading and self-education
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Some people love reading and some people can't stand it. While neither is wrong in their beliefs, those who love reading and learning are more confident than others. Reading isn't just for entertainment but a way for them to critically think about the nuances within a novel.
Whether they read self-help books or fictional romances, people who love reading and self-education hold high values. They love being overachievers and tend to perform better academically. Sitting down in their homes and cozying up to a book is just a typical day for them.
10. Being misunderstood
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People hate it when they feel like someone has misunderstood their intentions, particularly in social situations. Highly intelligent people are often misunderstood due to their seemingly distant nature. Since they take pride in their solitude, they rarely hang out with other people enough to gain the same level of social anxiety.
This is because they also exhibit non-conformist behaviors, often going against the status quo and moving to the beat of their own drum. While being misunderstood by a group would terrify most people, for these individuals, it's seen as an opportunity to display their confidence. They never actively seek validation from others because they are content being alone with themselves.
11. Financial discipline
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We all struggle with our spending habits, but people place their values high, rarely do. This is because they have self-control and financial disciplines that they live by. They are conscientious about how they spend their wealth and on what. Others might find it odd to be so frugal with small things, but too many small things eventually add up.
While it may seem like they have it all figured out, they're not perfect. They make financial mistakes like the rest of us. The difference is that they learn their lesson after one financial hiccup and try to avoid that from ever happening again. Being high value means participating in behaviors that lead to long-term success.
Sylvia Ojeda is a screenplay writer and journalist who covers self-help, relationships, culture, and human interest stories.
