The #1 Rule We Keep In The Bedroom For A Good Marriage

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I recently joined the yoga pants club. Not the one where I actually go to a yoga class, but the club with moms who wear them for school pick up and drop off. And during our various errands. Yoga pants are ridiculously comfortable. However, one thing I will not do is wear them in our bed. I wore them all day going everything under the sun, why would I bring all that filth into the bed?

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Another thing I refuse to wear to bed: footie pajamas and gigantic t-shirts.

The last time I wore footie pajamas I still believed in Santa Claus.

I get that they’re warm and cozy, like a newborn swaddled up like a baby burrito. They’re just not sexy. Well, they might come in handy if they have that little flap in the back. Easy access, if you get what I mean.

Before kids, I slept in those short, silky soft negligees. Sometimes I slept in less.

Not only was it comfortable, but I enjoyed the intimacy of spooning with my husband with as much skin contact as possible. I didn't have to worry about where my clothes were thrown or if I needed to quickly put on an old shirt from college with gross pajama pants, not knowing the last time either was washed.

After our daughter was born, those skimpy negligees were shoved in the back of my delicates drawer. By the time I pulled them back out, my post-baby weight was no match for those sexy underthings. (That was a sad, sad day.)

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My youngest still sneaks into our bed in the wee hours of the morning, so it’s not really practical to sleep in short, silky things anymore.

I wish I could channel Mad Men’s Betty Draper with my sleepwear. How many times have I woken up at 1 a.m. because my kids weren’t feeling well? Try cleaning your child’s vomit from silk or chiffon. Nope. I don’t have time for finicky laundry.

Now I sleep in comfy cotton and knit nightgowns. My only rule is that they’re not baggy or too long.

There’s plenty of if you know where to look. I’ve been with my husband for 17 years now.

While there’s not much mystery between us anymore, I think it’s important that I make an attempt to be me when I snuggle under the covers of our bed, instead of just being the mother of his children.

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I know this sounds crazy, especially since the snow is coming down on half the United States today. I suggest investing in a heating blanket for your bed. Best invention ever. Especially if you decide to go commando under your nightie.

What do you wear to bed?

Thien-Kim Lam is a love, sex, and relationship writer for Yourtango.

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This article was originally published at Momtastic. Reprinted with permission from the author.