If Your Wife Uses These 11 Phrases, You’re Married To A Very Good Woman
If your wife says things like this, make sure she knows how much you appreciate her.
LightField Studios / Shutterstock Sometimes a man has been married to his wife for so long that he can forget how truly amazing she is. After a while, he can start to forget to appreciate all the little gestures she does for him and the words of affirmation she never fails to deliver in a time of need.
If your wife says any of these phrases, you're married to a very good woman. Take time out of your day to tell her how much she's loved and maybe even stop by the store on the way home to get her some flowers. When you're married to a woman who looks out for both of you and makes life together fun, she's an exceptional woman and wife.
If your wife uses these 11 phrases, you're married to a very good woman
1. 'We're on the same team'
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When your wife uses this phrase in the middle of an argument, know that nothing matters more to her than coming to a resolution where both of you are happy. The way she looks at it, it's you and her against everyone else.
If you hear her say this, it proves that she's not focused on simply proving a point or winning, but rather on genuinely caring about finding an answer that strengthens the relationship and benefits the two of you. She views your marriage as a partnership, so her priority is to value that over her ego.
2. 'How can I help?'
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Not just a good wife, but a good woman, would want nothing more than to help her husband in a time of need. When she hears those grunts of frustration or deep sighs, she knows her husband needs her help. Sometimes just checking up on him can help a tremendous amount.
Being actively supportive of your partner can help them grow as a person and even help them flourish in their career. Spouses find support most effective when they believe it enhances their partner's happiness and is valued. So simply making them feel seen when they're struggling through something and letting them know you're there to help in any way can make all the difference.
3. 'Let's talk about this when we're calm'
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A good wife will always want to resolve any problems she faces with her husband, but an even better wife knows it's better to resolve fights when both of them are calmed down. Trying to fix something when the couple is highly emotional can lead to someone getting hurt or lead nowhere at all, so it's best to settle things when heads are clear and calm.
A study has shown that conflicts arise from emotion rather than logic, which is why stepping back before addressing the issue can be beneficial for everyone. This approach also demonstrates emotional intelligence and shows that the wife cares enough about her relationship with her husband to protect it from petty arguments.
4. 'We'll figure this out together'
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No matter what obstacles life throws your way, your wife should always want to be by your side when figuring out how to deal with them. A good wife will never leave her husband to deal with problems alone because when he's struggling, so is she.
Even when there are problems in the relationship, a healthy couple will choose to face those challenges together and come to a shared agreement. It's also important to focus more on the issues with easy solutions than to argue in circles over the ones that are more difficult to resolve.
"Focusing first on more solvable problems may be an effective way to build up both partners’ sense of security in the relationship," Dr. Bryan E. Robinson says.
5. 'I trust you'
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A good wife will always have trust in her husband, and she should, since that person will be with her for the rest of their lives. A wife's trust reflects the shared honesty and respect she sees in her husband every day. When she says this phrase, it's proof of how confident she is in your partnership.
Besides reinforcing her commitment to your relationship, your wife will feel emotionally safe with you only if she trusts you fully. "Trust allows partners to experience emotional and commitment safety," Licensed Mental Health Counselor Genesis Games says. "It opens the door for a deeper connection and gives them the motivation to endure the hard times they will face."
6. 'What do you need from me right now?'
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A woman who asks her husband what kind of support he needs from her right now is a good wife who is always looking out for her partner and their marriage. Sometimes space is necessary between the couple, and other times they just need some quality time together. It's never safe to assume what anyone wants, so learning to communicate on both ends is crucial to living a happily married life.
If you find yourself struggling to communicate with your spouse, some of the first things you can do to grow are learning to pick up on nonverbal cues while also trying not to read their mind. Maybe they're acting stranger than usual or seem to be moping around, simply ask how they're feeling and what you can do to make them feel better. Simple as that. Many people tend to hold onto their bad attitude until someone notices and asks about them; they really just want to feel seen.
7. 'What's on your mind?'
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In a good marriage, when your partner isn't acting like their usual self and their mind seems to be elsewhere, it's important to show that you notice the behavior and want to help them. Simple questions like these can be the beginning of a long, informative conversation about where your partner's head has been lately.
When a wife says this phrase, she's showing genuine care and curiosity. She is letting you know that this is a safe space where you can open up without judgment. This is the type of attentiveness that strengthens a bond and helps both people learn to openly communicate without feeling the need to bottle up their thoughts and feelings.
8. 'We don't have to agree on everything'
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Partners who truly love one another also know that each person sees the world through their own experiences. A good wife understands that having a few differences doesn't mean a marriage is doomed. When approached with respect, these differences can actually strengthen a relationship by learning to know how to see things through a different lens.
Somatic Coach Chelsea Horton says, "Being different from your partner can actually make your relationship feel even more dynamic, creating rich opportunities for growth for both people."
9. 'I enjoy just being with you'
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In a strong relationship, the couple often finds themselves being very low-maintenance. Going on a date every weekend is replaced with staying in and continuing to watch that show the two of you have been hooked on. This is not to say that going out as a couple isn't exciting. It's actually great for a relationship. But being okay with each other's presence, no matter what you're doing, is a sign that you truly love each other.
A good wife likes to stay in and do mundane things with her husband in their home just as much as she likes going out with him and their friends. Sometimes, they might even ditch plans they made to have a quiet afternoon together.
10. 'I love learning with you'
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In a healthy marriage, both partners understand that personal growth is continuous, and in a perfect marriage, they can learn from each other different ways to nourish their minds and hearts. A good wife knows that life is always better when you learn about new things together rather than separately.
When your wife says this, she can also mean that she loves learning from you and values the different insights you have to offer. Being in a relationship that can flourish into something great means embracing being both a student and a teacher.
11. 'Let's have fun with it'
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Being in a marriage leads people to find creative ways to make mundane things exciting with their partner. From chores both of you dread to attending a boring work event, great wives encourage doing these activities with a bit of a twist to keep the marriage interesting.
Finding new ways to keep each other on their toes can help a couple find new reasons to love each other, or it might uncover something about your spouse that you didn't know before. Don't just stay at home and repeat the same routine.
Having a great wife means having a best friend who always knows what you need, and if they don't, they'll never be afraid to communicate with you. Being married to a woman who not only is there for you at your lowest but is willing to grow alongside you is the best kind of support a man can have throughout his life.
Doreen Albuerne is a writer with a bachelor's degree in journalism, covering relationships, mental health, and lifestyle topics.
