If Your Wife Has These 11 Useful Habits, You Won The Marriage Lottery
Roman Samborskyi / Shutterstock Settling down with someone can be overwhelming. How do you know if you picked the right partner? They always say that when you know, you know. For many of us, that is the case. When you feel comfortable with someone and trust them fully, you’ll know you’re meant to be.
When a man chooses to settle down with a woman, he is drawn to her for several reasons. He’s attracted to her, of course, but he also loves other things about her. From her personality to her kind heart, there is much to be admired about her. While he knows he loves her, he’ll truly feel like he hit the marriage lottery with the habits she keeps. Her daily actions make him feel loved and valued.
If your wife has these 11 useful habits, you won the marriage lottery
1. She keeps the house running
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Marriage is a serious business. Things become hectic when you settle in as husband and wife. From balancing family life and career to caring for children, work goes into keeping the household running. It’s not an easy task, and if your wife makes it look easy, you’ve hit the marriage lottery.
Research shows that women carry most of the mental load of running a household. She somehow manages to keep everything running smoothly. From cooking and cleaning to carting the children around for their various hobbies, she makes it look easy. Of course, you should provide help where you can. However, if she makes it look easy, you’ve won the marriage lottery.
2. She shows support daily
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One study found that active support from your spouse is associated with better well-being. Showing love and respect goes a long way in a marriage. It prevents arguments and allows each person to feel seen. When a wife is there for her husband no matter what, you know you’ve hit the marriage lottery. It’s important to reciprocate that gesture to your wife.
Support makes you feel like you can accomplish anything. You do not feel alone. Through it all, a supportive wife makes life sweeter.
3. She does things without asking
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When life is hectic, it can be hard to keep up with the world around us. From remembering to pack our lunch for work to picking up our clothes off the floor, the little things can slip through the cracks. A man knows that he has hit the marriage lottery when he has a wife who does things without being asked. She wants to help any way she can. She cares about her husband, and this is one way she shows it.
Women are often painted as monsters who are always nagging at their husbands. It’s a stereotype that makes men afraid of marriage. While it can be true, women are also known to put everything they can into relationships, including tasks they know they could ask for help with, but choose to take control of. If you found a woman like this, you know you’re one of the lucky ones.
4. She checks in throughout the day
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Communication is key in a relationship. We need to have an open dialogue with our partners. A wife who makes her husband rich each day has no issues communicating, especially throughout the day. She values her husband and the work he does. When he’s at work or having a rough day, she is always there to send uplifting messages.
To be an emotionally supportive wife, it’s important to say sweet things to your partner. Providing genuine kindness throughout the day can go a long way. If she sends those kind check-in texts, you’re a lucky man.
5. She values the little things
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It’s the little things in a relationship that matter most. While big gestures and celebratory moments are nice, maintaining that lifestyle isn’t always accessible. Life gets hectic, and we lose the ability to devote countless hours to pleasing our partner with extravagance. Instead, you need to find a woman who appreciates the little things. When you do, you’ve hit the marriage lottery.
“In long-term relationships, it’s often the little things that matter most. The small, everyday acts of caring and the simple but sincere words of love and support can play a big part in ensuring happiness and well-being,” says Sanjana Gupta for Verywell Mind. “It's the way your partner remembers how you like your coffee. It's sending you a funny meme in the middle of the day to make you smile. It's being there to support you when you need them the most. Such moments are flashy, but they're often what matters most.”
6. She voices her opinions
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We have all been guilty of those infamous ‘what’s wrong?’ moments in a relationship. I know I have. When one partner asks the other if anything is wrong and the other replies, ‘Oh, nothing,’ it’s frustrating. Clearly, something is bothering her, but she struggles to verbalize it. It can be difficult to deal with.
When a woman isn’t afraid to voice her opinion, it’s helpful for the relationship. Each person gets to tell the others how they feel. To be comfortable stating her opinion, a woman needs to put effort into finding her voice in the partnership. Once she does, you’ll never be left wondering how she truly feels. She is confident enough to share it herself.
7. She admits when she is wrong
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An apology sounds like a simple thing to say. However, most of us know that it’s far from the truth. Our egos prevent us from being vulnerable. Saying you’re sorry, even if you feel it, is difficult. You know what you did wasn’t right, but to admit it out loud feels like pulling teeth.
You know you’ve struck gold when your wife isn’t afraid to admit when she is wrong. She’s mastered vulnerability and does not care about her ego. Instead, she wants to make sure you are happy. When she messes up, she knows it’s only right to genuinely apologize. She does not want there to be conflict. A wife like this is special.
8. She stays true to herself
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In a marriage, two lives come together to form one unit. This process can make it difficult to maintain individuality. Some women will find it easier to mold themselves into the type of person they believe their husband wants. Whether that’s taking on his hobbies or joining his friend group, it isn’t as great as it sounds. When a man marries a woman, he loves her for being herself. If she becomes a carbon copy of him, it can be not easy.
Dependency can form in relationships. Women will lose who they are and only see themselves as wife and mothers. However, there is something important about staying true to yourself and not turning into a less honest version of the woman you once were.
9. She respects boundaries
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When you settle down with someone, you may feel you have to make yourself available to them every second of every day. However, that is not healthy. We need to place and enforce healthy boundaries. When a wife is a truly good woman, she not only sets her own boundaries, but she also clearly understands and abides by her partner's. Whether it’s carving out time for yourself at the end of the day or establishing a firm' no phones at the dinner table' rule, these boundaries are important.
“Boundaries are unique for every individual. They cover a range of topics and can be small or big. In the simplest terms, a boundary in a marriage is the limit of what a person is willing to accept from their partner,” says April Eldemire, LMFT, for Psychology Today. “Boundaries serve as an outward expression of a person's core values and beliefs and reflect what they need to feel safe, respected, and loved.”
10. She actively listens
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It’s one thing to listen to your partner, but actively listening makes all the difference. For many, they will show up to conversations with their partner and put little effort into the listening aspect of it. We can get caught up in wanting to explain our side of the story instead of understanding where our partner is coming from. If a woman actively listens, responds, and considers your thoughts, you won the marriage lottery.
When a wife truly listens to her husband, she is practicing mindfulness. If you’re arguing, you need to be able to see where the other person is coming from. By actively listening, she is showing she cares. She wants things to improve between the two of you when things go south.
11. She asks for help when she needs it
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This is something I am not great at. I am famous for getting myself in over my head and not asking for the support I need. This can build resentment in a relationship. However, how does your partner know to assist you if you’re unable to verbalize it? A woman who is capable of asking for help is special.
Instead of expecting their partner to know everything, they actually tell them what they need. It allows each person to show up for each other in a positive way. While it would be nice if our partners could read our minds, they can’t. A man who has a wife who verbalizes her needs has won the marriage lottery.
Haley Van Horn is a freelance writer with a master’s degree in Humanities, living in Los Angeles. Her focus includes entertainment and lifestyle stories.
