Experts Say These 8 Behaviors Make Women Irresistibly Compelling To Men

Showing a guy you’re interested can feel really hard sometimes. After all, you don’t want to be vulnerable or too forward, but you still want to show some dominance, because, let’s be real. Some guys won't say out loud what behaviors they find the most irresistibly compelling when it comes to women.

Yet, all is not lost because a pair of flirting studies found that "having good non-verbal behavior, being intelligent, and having a gentle approach, were rated as the most important factors." So, here are some ways to highlight the subtle behaviors that create an attraction that goes far beyond surface-level chemistry.

Experts say these 8 behaviors make women irresistibly compelling to men:

1. Cross and uncross your legs

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If you’re sitting down, cross and uncross your legs to flirt. It’s most effective when he notices as you seductively move your legs. "Make sure you're not uptight or anxious, or you’ll come off awkward," cautioned relationship coach Amy Schoen. "In each interaction, there is intention, a goal leading to something potentially more permanent. You need a casual attitude about this. It’s like going fishing. You’re just putting the bait out there and seeing if your person of interest is willing to take it."

2. Draw attention to your lips

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If you want him to kiss you, draw attention to your lips. Lick them, touch them, or just wear a flattering lipstick. As long as you subtly emphasize your lips, he’ll naturally start looking at them more and pucker up. Marriage coaches Susie and Otto Collins suggested, "Make sure to smile softly and warmly, too. Non-verbal cues can be confusing. So make sure you are feeling on the inside what you want to convey on the outside. This makes a big difference."

3. Play with your hair

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Don’t twirl your hair or push it back, because that’ll make your roots greasy. Just brush it down, tuck it behind your ear, or fan it behind your shoulders. Also, don’t focus on your scalp; that may look like you’re scratching your head, and nobody wants to deal with dandruff.

Dating coach Dina Colada ups the game, "If you have pesky hair tickling your face, don't just swat it off. Make your movements deliberate and slow. I promise your man will appreciate the movement of your hand across your cheek behind your ear and down the back of your neck. His eyes will be watching your lingering movements like a hawk. When you touch yourself, imagine it's his hands, and don't forget to give him that "come hither" look while you do it."

4. Wear perfume on the back of your neck

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Whether you walk by him, play with your hair, or reach in for a hug, he’ll definitely smell your perfume. Everybody knows that scent can affect someone's emotions, so spray a little extra back there and give him a reminder of how nice you smell. Research on perfume, body odor, and attraction showed how perfumes and other fragrances can significantly impact the outcome of social encounters.

5. Play with your necklace

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If you’re having a casual conversation with him, start playing with your necklace a little bit. Twist it in your fingers, adjust the charm, or move the chain so the clip sits behind your neck. He’ll definitely stare at your kissable neck.

Flirting depends on your style. An in-depth study of flirting found that each style has its focus: "More conversational fluency for physical flirts, more demure behaviors for traditional female flirts, less fidgeting, teasing, and distraction, and more smiling for sincere flirts, more reserved and distancing behavior by polite flirts, and more obviously engaging and flirtatious behaviors by playful flirts."

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6. Sit with a straight back

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Not only is good posture really attractive, but sitting straight is also the perfect way to flirt. For example, if you sit straight and keep your shoulders back, you’ll push your chest out a little bit more. Trust me, good posture makes you look amazing.

Life coach Ronnie Ann Ryan elaborated, "Poor posture and slouching shoulders demonstrate low self-esteem, the opposite of what most men want. You also want to avoid looking tired or stressed, which slouching can also indicate. Instead, focus on sitting up straight and relaxing."

7. Face your entire body in his direction

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When he’s talking to you, face your entire body in his direction. He doesn’t want to see you glancing around the room or checking out other men. Show him you’re paying attention. He’ll notice if you’re facing someone else.

We might know not to cross our arms, because it gives off the impression we don’t care. And we definitely know not to stay on our phones, because it’s such a turn-off. But these other minor, not-so-obvious flirting techniques will attract him. Hopefully, he’ll pick up on your hints and make a move, because playing hard-to-get doesn’t always work.

Brittany Christopoulos is a writer, journalist, and fill-in TV co-host. She's a Senior Writer and Head of Trending News for Unwritten.