Couples Who Inspire One Another Have These 11 Habits
Your partner can be your muse, even if you're not an artist.
Galina Zhigalova / Shutterstock Couples who inspire one another may seem to have all the luck, but they actually share several habits that encourage the best in both people. They aren’t just partners. Rather, they act like each other’s own personal muse — a source of inspiration, a motivator, and so much more.
People who experience that kind of coupledom have a certain spark in their eye that’s hard to ignore. They push each other more, seem healthier, and genuinely seem happy with one another.
Couples who inspire one another have these 11 habits
1. They praise and encourage one another
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Is your partner your personal cheerleader? When you tell them that you’re nervous about something, are they the first ones to tell you that you can do it? One of the most common signs that your partner can inspire you is how you treat each other’s dreams and concerns.
Uplifting people are naturally inspirational. That’s why so many relationship bloggers and professionals tell people to find someone who encourages them and praises them when they do well. It’s a healthy part of a relationship.
2. They recognize the importance of mutual inspiration
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Inspiration has a massive, massive impact on the way you live your life. It acts almost like an energy that surrounds you. And no, it’s not just me talking some “woo woo” fluff!
People who tend to inspire others are well aware of the benefits of having a little inspiration from a partner. It helps keep your eyes on the prize, helps you both bond, and can even help you empathize with one another.
3. They split chores evenly
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Couples who inspire one another are not going to be the same ones who end up burning each other out with chores. This is because you need to be able to rest before you get revved up to do more. Sharing chores also improves a couple’s connection, which makes for a much better overall experience.
There are a lot of perks to being in a relationship where your partner pulls their own fair share. It’s not just a matter of feeling respected or getting a well-deserved break. Rather, it’s also about feeling appreciated and preventing burnout.
4. They talk about their goals on a regular basis
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There’s something to be said about having a partner who really wants to know what you want in life. Couples who serve as inspirational guides for one another tend to have regular sit-downs where they talk about what they want out of their lives.
In many cases, just talking about what you want to do can help you keep your eyes on the proverbial prize. Of course, there’s also another part of this habit that makes a massive difference.
5. They talk about what they want to do and brainstorm ways to do it
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Here’s the thing about inspiration: it’s not really that good for you if you never actually take time to figure out how to accomplish everything you want to do. One of the bigger “make or break” behaviors worth talking about deals with how they talk to one another about goals.
A partner who helps you map out a path to accomplishing your goals isn’t just inspirational. They basically act as that one big boost you need in order to make it happen.
6. They both aim to lead by example
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As a person who tends to observe what others do, the phrase, “Do as I say, not as I do,” tends to come up a lot in my criticisms of others. It’s hard to really feel inspired by a person when all they ever have to offer is words and direction.
Having a partner who actually pursues their goals and sticks to a plan is an amazing thing to witness. It’s inspiring to see people who are go-getters who actually make things happen. Seeing someone like that in your day-to-day is bound to motivate you.
7. Gratitude
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It’s amazing how much motivation hearing a simple “thank you” can offer, isn’t it? When you keep giving without receiving, it’s hard to ignore how hurtful it can be. A simple show of gratitude can motivate you to keep on going, even when you’d normally be tapped out.
For many couples, gratitude is the glue that keeps them together when times are tough. Even if you’re not looking to inspire one another, it makes good sense to try to encourage a little gratitude in your relationship.
8. They use a little tact
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Let’s face it, not every major life change is going to be easy to inspire in a person. For example, it can be hard to inspire someone to lose weight, and even broaching the subject can be an emotional minefield.
Having a little tact, knowing how to present an idea for motivation, and being able to navigate that minefield can make a world of difference. It can actually be the difference between seeing a partner go through a major weight loss journey and seeing them double down.
9. They try to celebrate all the milestones, great and small
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Did you ever notice how often having a little celebration to look forward to can make a big difference in sticking to a goal? Partners who inspire one another tend to work towards goals and celebrate every step of the way.
It’s a nice feeling to be able to say you had someone cheering you on throughout the whole journey. That’s why the little steps matter.
10. They encourage each other instead of competing
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Many of us know a couple where one treats the other like they're competition. If one partner loses weight, the other has to lose more. Or if one partner is doing well at their job, the other partner might get jealous and try to sabotage it.
Many times, these couples started out inspiring one another. Unfortunately, insecurity crept in, leading one or both to have control issues. Couples that keep that motivation going are quick to nip insecurity in the bud and remind themselves that they’re on the same team.
11. They don’t trash each other’s goals
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While most of the tips on this list are all about positive reinforcement, the truth is that there’s a flipside to this that you might want to consider. Too often, we hear of people who dismiss their partner’s dreams and goals.
That’s a fast-track way to demoralize, demotivate, and also disengage a person. Even if it seems silly, don’t talk poorly about your partner’s goals. It will leave a bigger mark than you’d ever think.
Couples who truly inspire each other share a special kind of chemistry. They support each other through encouragement and the belief that they are better together than apart. These habits help a couple grow into the best versions of themselves while remaining true to who they are.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer whose work has been featured in Yahoo, BRIDES, Your Daily Dish, Newtheory Magazine, and others.
