8 Tiny Warning Signs That Scream 'Do Not Marry Him!'

A marriage with this kind of man can only end in divorce.

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You think you love the guy. You even think he's marriage material. He says all the right things, but over time ... you begin to notice that his actions don't match his words. He tells you that he respects you, but dismisses your opinions. He claims he wants a shared relationship between the two of you, but then he makes all the decisions. Sorry, ladies ... these are the behaviors of a "loser."

We've learned from over 33 years of marriage research conducted around the world that ignoring the warning signs of a loser comes at great risk to your health, happiness, and welfare. Heed the warning signs before it's too late.


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The eight warning signs that you should not marry a specific man: 

1. He constantly engages in controlling behavior

We often hear women say to us, "He always wants control," or, "If I want to go to movie X, he buys tickets for movie Y." When your guy exhibits behaviors that telegraph he wants complete control of your relationship, be very wary. A true loving relationship does not have bosses.



2. His condescending attitude drives you crazy

Here's the deal — your guy is not your master. He doesn't have the right always to have the last word. Frankly, a loving relationship should not have a hierarchy. He is not more important than you; his attitudes and opinions do not trump yours.


3. He often exhibits narcissistic behavior

According to the Mayo Clinic, "Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their importance and a deep need for admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they're superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings." If your guy thinks he is superior to you, you should demonstrate otherwise by walking away from your relationship with him. It is that simple.

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4. He engages in bullying tactics

Let's be honest here — nobody likes a bully. Sadly, bullying occurs in many marriages and relationships. A bully pushes you around and wants to make you cringe in his presence. A bully is like a termite. He is always trying to get inside of you and weaken you at your foundation. He wants to eat away at your interior so he can control you. So, we ask this simple question, "Does your mate bully you?" If he does, it's time to leave your relationship.

5. He tries to manipulate you all the time

Does he try to "pull your strings" as if you are a puppet? And more importantly, does he continuously attempt to manipulate your actions, your feelings, your behaviors, and your aspirations? Some men always want to steer you towards a conclusion they would draw, not one you would. Manipulation is an insidious form of control.


6. He NEVER follows through with promises

Okay, he promised you a rose garden but never delivered. He told you he would fix your car, but didn't. He told you he would pick you up at 8:00 PM, but didn't show up until 10:00 PM. He said he'd cut the grass, but didn't. The truth is, he's promised you that he'd do a lot of things. In the end, he rarely ever follows through on his promises. Heed the warnings.

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7. He cannot be trusted

We've found over the years what the best marriages have at their core — trust. In those marriages that survive over time, they all report to us that their undying trust for each other carried them through the good times and the bad. Without complete trust, you cannot stay in the relationship.



8. He exhibits financial warning signs

Since the number one cause of disagreements in a marriage is financially related, it's critical to notice warning signs present in the guy you think you want to marry. Here are just a few warning signs to pay careful attention to: He is often out of work. He spends his money on a lot of personal "toys" without regard to the consequences. You often end up paying the bill when you go out to dinner, a movie, or a concert.


These eight tell-tale behaviors are pervasive characteristics. They are very real. They define who a person is and they rarely change. A person's actions do trump their words. Recognizing these characteristics could save you from a life of unhappiness, distress, and, very often, danger. Far too many women mistakenly enter into a marriage believing that a man's behavior can change. It rarely ever does. Terrible disappointment is the only possible outcome. Don't marry a guy you think you can change. Marry a man that you love completely (just as he is right now).

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Dr. Charles and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz are renowned love and marriage experts and multiple award-winning authors. Their best-selling book, Building A Love That Lasts, provides readers with insightful and practical tips from thousands of happily married couples.