11 Subtle Signs Your Partner Has Lost Feelings (And Might End Things)

According to a licensed counselor.

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 It hurts to have to even question whether or not a partner is losing feelings. No one wants to imagine a future without someone they love.

That’s why it is so important to try and communicate early on so it doesn’t get to the point of not having a future together. The signs, behaviors, and actions of partners who are losing interest are subtle and at times, may even seem "normal" in some relationships.


Don’t get too comfortable. Make sure you nip it in the bud before too much time passes and it’s too late to fix the relationship.

If you think your partner is falling out of love with you or your relationship, take note of these subtle signs listed and make sure to catch them early enough so there’s a better chance at staying together.


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The 11 signs your partner has lost feelings for you — and may be thinking about leaving: 

1. He suddenly has a new obsession

Everyone has passions and hobbies that they should like participating in. It becomes worrisome when a passion or hobby is being used as a distraction or a way of avoiding the relationship.

If less time is being spent with you and more time is being spent on a hobby, it may be a way of ignoring the relationship. Pay attention to the amount of time being spent on a hobby and the amount of time spent with you.

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2. He gives up on his appearance

When one partner gives up on their appearance and doesn’t make an effort to shave or clean up, that partner is showing no concern or worry that the other find him attractive.

Not cleaning up for a night out on the town or to go hang out with friends may indicate an avoidance of intimacy altogether.

3. There's minimal to no cuddling

In the beginning of the relationship, cuddling was natural in order to feel close to one another. Cuddling is one of the ways couples feel close to each other.

If there’s minimal to no cuddling anymore, it may mean that they aren’t concerned or interested in meeting your intimacy needs.


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4. He doesn’t ask about your day

This just shows an overall lack of interest in whatever it is you do on your day-to-day. If they don’t ask about your day, it may also be a sign that it’s really not that important to them.

5. He refuses to discuss what’s bothering him

They don’t want to talk about what’s bothering them because it may make them feel uncomfortable.

What is the best solution to discomfort? Avoidance. They don’t want to discuss anything that may bring feelings of discomfort.

6. He doesn’t hold your hand anymore

Holding hands usually comes naturally to couples. If they aren’t holding your hand, it can mean they have a lack of interest in being physically close and connected to the other.


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7. He no longer talks about the future or avoids the topic altogether

The future a couple once had that involved a family and buying a house becomes a distant memory of what a couple once shared.

8. There's lack of eye contact

Nonverbal communication, such as eye contact, says a lot about how much a person values another and how important a person is to them. If there is minimal eye contact within the relationship, it’s time to question their feelings and why this change has occurred.

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9. Communication becomes less frequent

Lack of communication needs to be detected early in order for the relationship to be saved. If it’s not addressed early enough, it allows them to emotionally withdraw from the relationship completely.


10. Conversations have become surface-level discussions

Your conversations and discussions become relatively uninteresting and at times, meaningless. For example, you may ask about a baseball game or game show your partner is watching and that is as far as it goes.

Discussion about the relationship and issues within the relationship are avoided.

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11. He acts uncomfortable around other couples who are happy

While other couples may be holding hands or have their arms around each other, your partner may seem agitated or annoyed in their company. It may feel awkward for you both to be around "happy" couples. 

Take action early. Do not wait until it’s too late. Don’t get the thought in your head that you are nagging because you’re not.

You have every right to know what is going on in your partner’s life and how your partner feels within the relationship.

Communication is key and if your partner is unable to communicate their feelings and issues in the relationship, then they aren’t worth it and you deserve better.


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Brittney Lindstrom is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Rehabilitation Counselor. She writes about relationships, organizational psychology and behavior, personality psychology, and more.