11 Signs You Have Emotional Trauma From A Broken Heart

Sometimes emotional wounds hurt more than physical ones.

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People react to pain differently and deal with it differently. This is even truer when it comes to someone who has been emotionally hurt.

Sadly, people who are emotionally wounded find it hard to live with their traumas and continuously seek ways to heal the pain they feel in their souls.

That is why their behavior often seems weird to others who have never been hurt in such a way.

Here are 11 signs you have emotional trauma from a broken heart:

1. You seek distractions from your painful thoughts

Emotionally hurt people need to get distracted from their bothering thoughts which disturb them all the time. As they tend to think about hundreds of painful things they feel a constant need to escape from their thoughts. So they need to keep themselves busy with something to ease their troubled minds. However, their occupations should be wisely chosen.


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2. You prefer solitude to social interactions

Emotionally hurt people feel everything very intensely. Sometimes their emotions are so deep and intense that they have to retreat from any social interaction and be alone with themselves far away from all people and situations that could destroy their fragile peace.

3. Your sleep is not healthy

People who have undergone emotional traumas tend to have unhealthy sleeping habits. Sometimes they sleep long hours other times they cannot get enough sleep. This latter situation usually occurs if they stay up late at night because they are disturbed by their emotionally painful memories which prevent them from going to sleep.


4. You often feel depressed 

If someone has been emotionally hurt, they tend to perceive negativity more intensely than others. That is why emotionally hurt individuals often feel depressed — usually because they dig deeper into the bad things that happen to them. These men and women seldom look at the bright side of life, and this is a considerable barrier to living a happy and fulfilling life.

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5. You overthink

These people usually don’t make plans for the future, as they are too busy to overanalyze the things that happen to them in the present. They can’t help thinking over and over again about what has happened during the day or the week. They do so because it makes them feel comfortable and distracts them from the emotionally painful thoughts that tend to overwhelm their minds.

Sadly, these people tend to overthink all sorts of insignificant details not only the situations from the present moment, and very often become obsessed with them.


6. You get upset very easily

These people are highly sensitive and could get easily upset about the least important thing. But, it’s just a trait of their character. Hopefully if one day they manage to overcome their traumas their over-sensitivity will heal too.

7. You can't tell the difference between a toxic and a healthy relationship

It happens that wounded people might have difficulties making the difference between a toxic and healthy relationship. Unfortunately, that puts them at risk of falling victim to toxic relationships or poisonous people. And this could increase their anxiousness even more.

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8. You are too vulnerable

Emotionally hurt people get offended easily because as mentioned above they are highly sensitive. This is the reason why they could become defensive and react aggressively in trivial situations. Very often they would feel offended when others joke with them even if it is not in a mean way. The same is valid when someone puts them down as they are too vulnerable to accept criticism calmly.


9. You are not patient

Patience is not a quality emotionally wounded individuals possess that’s why they quickly get annoyed with other people or situations. The worst part, however, is that such behavior could lead to negative reactions from other people and cause conflicts that are unnecessary.

10. You aren't confident

People who are emotionally hurt usually are very unconfident because they’ve been belittled too long and don’t trust their point of view anymore. They live in a continuous cycle of doubts and need constant reassurance that they are on the right track.

For others, this is a manifestation of weakness, but they just cannot understand the struggles emotionally wounded individuals are going through.

11. You perceive the world around you in black and white

People who have deep emotional wounds tend to feel everything much more intensely than others. It’s little surprise then that their mood changes all the time, going from extremely happy to very sad in the blink of an eye.


These people perceive things in black and white, due to their traumatic emotional experiences. And such thinking could lead to serious issues with their self-esteem, happiness, and relations with others.

If you notice these types of behavior in someone, there’s a high chance you’re dealing with an emotionally hurt individual so you should be kinder to them.

Remember that these are people who need advice and support so you could help them if you become their friend. It’s not a bad idea to keep them company in order to distract them from the overwhelming pain they have to handle all the time.


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Maria Hakki is an English teacher, writer, and translator. She has been featured in I Heart Intelligence, Australian National Review, and more.