Heartbreak

Please Stop Craving Unstable Relationships — You Deserve Better

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By Amanda Miller

As we all know, someone dealing with touch starvation constantly struggles to find a healthy relationship.

Do you still feel like you need to have a relationship, even if it comes with little affection? Or a lack of physical love?

Dealing with a lack of physical affection comes from lacking emotional, physical, and mental connections. It can even show a hyper-dependence on others to confirm their well-being.

You might ask yourself the following question: “Why do I strongly desire affection?”

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There are many reasons people desire love and affection. One reason you may crave taste is due to your environment. You were or have been lonely without anyone to provide you with any sense of physical and emotional connection.

Many may not admit that the craving for physical affection was low, mainly due to the pandemic.

Yes, unfortunately, you can develop without proper affection as a child. People who experience a lack of physical love often experience a lack of proper attachment in their preadolescence.

Unfortunately, some people may go through life as though they don’t deserve tenderness though they want to be kept, valued, and respected. This can also connect with seeking self-love and the value of a relationship through the progress of healing.

Another thought may be, “What’s the real distinguishing factor of someone who craves love?

People who experience intense desires for love usually have the following characteristics:

Preoccupation with passion and affection: Individuals who desire passion get nervous when they do not expect it. Do you feel you place too much importance on taste? To the point that you occasionally feel as if nothing else matters?

Directing ways: Desiring love can likewise make you display possessiveness toward those who offer you love and admiration.

Questioning and begging affection: If affection has numerous significant areas in your life, you may be inclined to order it from others. Or you may implore them to show you the passion you desperately need. Those who share desertion or negligence may find it challenging to trust others and create lasting connections.

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What happens when you crave tenderness and affection?

Continue to learn about yourself; still, try to grow, and desire the need for attention, especially in building a stable and safe relationship.

You may attempt to do this in your search for someone with a higher understanding of dealing with the extreme need for affection, even in a toxic environment or with an uncertain person.

Is there any way to stop the craving?

There are specific ways to restrain your love desires and rely more on different people. Here is some advice: List your favorite pursuits.

Try to ask yourself: What do you like? What makes you excited? Are there any hobbies you like? What do you like about yourself? Take note of what you enjoy, whether bodily or linked to your personality.

What is exemplary regarding you? Are you thoughtful, understanding, or dedicated? Or logical, obsessive, and reliable? No matter what it is, concentrate on the favorable elements of your character instead of your faults.

Enhance what you can. Think about what you can and may want to change in your life. Let’s say you’d like to be more practical in your career and friendships. Enhance the specialties you can handle, and make harmony.

The assumption is that you would push yourself to improve your talents and create goals in personal and professional spaces.

Rebuilding trust and learning to value yourself is a subtle, incremental approach. It would help if you took relationships slowly.

Try not to push yourself into switching uncomfortably and concentrate on individual efforts. Doing everything at once can crush you and force you to ditch your voyage altogether.

Instead, work on yourself and your connections one degree at a time, and you will heal.

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Amanda Miller is an upcoming novelist and contributor writer to Femi Magazine, Sheen Magazine, and other digital platforms. She writes on topics of Black excellence, wellness, and entertainment.

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This article was originally published at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.