3 Infuriating Things To Expect When Breaking Up With A Narcissist

This type of man is dangerous.

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DON’T ever underestimate the breakup maneuvers of a narcissistic partner.

A narcissist’s end-game tactics are varied. If he still sees value in the relationship he may try to win you back so he can resume his control and abuse of you.

He may suddenly turn nice and “promise to change,” stop drinking, enter therapy or an abuser program. He may suddenly take care of the things that you have been complaining about. He may tell you “that you will be lost without him,” or “no one else will want to be with you.”


But if he believes you are permanently leaving him, he thinks you are seeing someone else or he is finished with you, you may be in for the "fight of your life."

Be prepared for ANY of the following narcissistic behaviors if you think your relationship is ending with a narcissistic man.

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Here are 3 infuriating things to expect when breaking up with a narcissist:

1. He finds another “bedmate”

A narcissistic man may have another relationship lined up before he dumps you and when this happens, his behavior can change dramatically and overnight. He can become extremely unpredictable, withdrawn, hostile, and unfeeling and his abandonment can happen quickly and without warning.


When he makes up his mind that he wants to be with his new romantic interest, he may do outrageous things to get rid of you. And when he does dump you, there will be no apologies or expression of remorse because a narcissist does not feel guilt, shame, or regret for his reprehensible actions.



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2. He does things to run you off

When a narcissistic man believes can no longer control you or is finished with you, he can become destructive and dangerous.


He will use minor issues to set you up for extreme verbal or physical abuse, and his increased rage will seem to come out of nowhere and for no apparent reason. He will say and do new and vicious acts against you.

He will set you up for elaborate altercations to punish you, frighten you, and anger you so he can justify abusing you and deserting you, all the while, the narcissist draws satisfaction from the drama and pain he creates.

Unknown to me, my fiancé (living 100 miles away) was dating another woman. He came to town and he took me to dinner; I thought it was like any other date night. Instead, he started the worst fight of our relationship at the restaurant and then he physically assaulted me when we got back to my home.

It was the dead blow to our relationship. I found out the following week his new floozy was already living with him.


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3. His verbal attacks escalate to physical abuse

The narcissistic man’s end game can be treacherous and scary. He may throw things and strike objects near you to terrorize you into submission and he may destroy your treasured possessions to penalize you.

He may threaten to harm your children, pets, or a family member. He may file false charges against you, report you to child services, or threaten to take the children away from you. He may use his physical size to intimidate you, e.g., he stands in the doorway blocking your exit during an argument.

He may make statements like, "I'll break your neck" and then he dismisses his threats by saying he didn't really mean it. He may threaten you with bodily harm, stalk you, and show up at your work or home unannounced looking for a fight.
When a woman I know broke up with her jealous, verbally abusive boyfriend, he stole her favorite clothes, jewelry, and perfume so she couldn’t "look good around another man." He terrorized her with endless threatening phone calls and texts.


He showed up at her apartment drunk late at night, pounding on her patio door and windows demanding that she let him into her apartment and when she called the police he keyed the side of her car. 

He left notes on her car's windshield at home and at work, vacillating from, "I love you. Please give me another chance" to "I'll kill you if I ever see you with another man." In his mind, if he couldn’t have her — no one would have her.


Don’t ever open the door to an angry man. 

If you think you may be experiencing depression or anxiety as a result of ongoing emotional abuse at the hands of a narcissist, you are not alone.

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone and is not a reflection of who you are or anything you've done wrong.

If you feel as though you may be in danger, there is support available 24/7/365 through the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 1-800-799-7233. If you’re unable to speak safely, text LOVEIS to 1-866-331-9474.

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Nancy Nichols is a best-selling self-help, dating, and relationship author, empowerment speaker, notorious blogger, and TV and radio talk show personality. She's a woman's advocate who uses her self-help books to impart self-esteem building, the power of positive thought, relationship understanding, and personal healing.