If A Parent Truly Loves Their Daughter From The Depths Of Their Soul, They Will Teach Her These 10 Lessons
These timeless lessons help girls grow up feeling valued and deeply loved.
kate_sept2004 | Canva I've been having a lot of conversations on looks and fashion with my ten-year-old daughter recently. She is not only at the age where she is beginning to notice these kinds of things, but is also standing on the edge of puberty and interest in boys. It is a very tricky time, to say the least.
Raising a daughter is about so much more than keeping her safe. It's about equipping her with the values and inner strength that will guide her through life's highs and lows. Here are ten life-shaping truths every parent who loves their daughter from the depths of their soul will want her to know.
If a parent truly loves their daughter from the depths of their soul, they will teach her these 10 lessons:
1. You are much more beautiful than you know
I hear you and your friends worrying about how you all look. I know even as you do this, that you are following in my footsteps and those of every other woman who has ever walked this planet.
I know I'm your mother and am therefore biased, but trust me on this. You do not need to worry.
You are a beautiful girl who will turn into a beautiful woman. And the same goes for your friends and every other girl on this great planet.
2. An outfit is only as cute as it makes you feel
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You love putting together an outfit and always have. It is some expression of your artsy nature. But as you move into your teenage years and begin to worry about what everyone else is wearing, know this.
No matter how cute that dress or those boots look, if you do not feel comfortable while wearing them, you might as well go ahead and change outfits. I'd rather be late than have you worry about how your shirt is sliding awkwardly around all day or have aching feet.
There are too many important things to think about in life. Wear what makes you feel confident and happy. Period.
3. Dress for yourself and no one else
It might feel tempting in future years to wear something you think will impress that cute crush. It's even more tempting to wear something because you think it will make you look better in the eyes of your friends.
However, anyone who thinks less of you based on what brand you wear or, God forbid, how well you dress is not worth your company. Anyone who truly loves you will value you holding to your self-expression and values.
4. You are not fat
Let's just go ahead and get this out of the way. Your body will change and grow and get thick and curvy in places. But you are not fat. You are strong and athletic, so much more so than I was at your age.
Treasure those thighs, for they enabled you to run faster than your brother and a whole den of cub scouts last year. Love your arms for they move in ways that are giving and kind. And that round face of yours lights up a room when you smile.
Your body is a gift. Learn to love it for how it allows you to move through this world, not for how it measures up to some twisted image in a magazine.
5. Skinny does not equal happy
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Speaking of the "f" and "s" words, skinny does not necessarily equal happy. The times in my life when I've been at my most thin have also been times when I've been the most unhappy.
Being thin does not bring you joy. However, being quite overweight wasn't that much fun either, as I often felt sluggish and ill. In the end, the numbers on the scale, high or low, matter much less than how you feel. So let's all shoot for healthy and well-adjusted and call it a day.
6. Happy equals beautiful
Really, this is my number one beauty tip. A girl can just roll out of bed complete with flannel PJs and bedhead, but if she is truly happy, that joy is going to shine through as beauty.
You won't always be happy, and that's normal. But when you are, wear your joy like jewels.
7. Sunscreen and water are your friends
I know I'm talking about looks like they don't matter, and that's not exactly true. Most people do want to look their best, and people do get judged based on their image. So be sure and take care of what you have been given.
The Annals of Dermatology showed how sunscreen and water are a girl's two best friends. Sunscreen avoids many a future wrinkle. And good hydration doesn't just make your kidneys happy.
Have you ever seen what lack of water does to a grape? Yeah, no one wants to look like a raisin. Drink your water, my dear, and your skin will thank you.
8. A good night's sleep does a world of good
While we are talking about taking care of yourself, don't forget to get enough sleep. The times when I've felt the worst about how I look are the mornings when the bags under my eyes needed their carrying case.
Conversely, the mornings when I looked in the mirror and liked what I saw were days when I had slept so long and hard that my face showed it.
Your body really does thank you for taking care of it, and getting enough rest is one of the biggest ways this is true.
9. It doesn't matter what you eat, but not for the reasons you might think
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You've watched me change my eating habits and heard me tell you you're "healthy" more times than either of us can count.
I hope that eventually I'll teach you to care about what you put in your body. Not because what you consume will either make you fat or skinny, but because what you put in your body will either make you healthy or ill.
Your body needs nourishment. If you feed it plenty of fruits and veggies and back off the junk, it will show.
Not only in the size of your figure, but a 2023 study showed how diet influences the glow of your skin and bounce in your step. And eating well will just make you plain feel better, which, as I've already mentioned, is half of what being beautiful is about.
10. If you think you are beautiful, the rest of the world will likely agree with you
In the end, a lot of it comes down to this. If you are happy with who you are and carry yourself with joy and confidence, you will radiate beauty.
I know it's easy to feel worried and insecure about your looks. But try to dig down deep and remember that you are loved and cherished for the wonderful, unique person you are. A girl is lovely not only because of her gorgeous hair and smile, but also because of her kindness and easy laugh.
Like I said before, you have nothing to worry about. You are and will be a beautiful girl. But what matters most is that you believe it too.
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