The 1 Thing I Did To Become Fearless And Change My Life

If you do not currently have happiness in any area of your life, it's because you are not living fearlessly. Pain is just the universe telling you that you need to grow here, and growth requires you to live fearlessly.

One of my mentors, Keith Cunningham, once told me something that I never forgot and use daily. He said, "the solution to every problem you currently have is sitting just outside your current comfort zone, or it would not be a problem right now." Keith is 100% correct. As he always asked next, "the question is, are you gonna go get it?" Keith is from Texas, so that always sounds better with his Texan accent.

And my answer is always "hell yes." That's why living a magnificent and abundant life requires you to live fearlessly. Because to keep growing, you need to continually break through your current comfort zone into your next one.

Today, I have cultivated my emotional fitness, peak psychology, and decision-making process to the point that I move through comfort zones quickly and constantly. I look forward to breaking through comfort zones today. Even in the depths of fear and pain, I feel with 100% of my being that I am about to blow through another comfort zone (and I'm in the discomfort part of the process).

But I didn't start here. I started as a control freak who lived small, tried to control every outcome and showed up to "get" my result in nearly every situation, avoiding pain and discomfort at all costs. The quality of my life directly matched my mindset—it was small, fearful, self-involved, and scarcity based. I was not happy and I had no idea that my lack of happiness had anything to do with my fear driving me.

Like most people, back then I blamed everyone and everything else for my unhappiness. I felt I was too fat, so I blamed my body and my genes. I didn't like my job so I blamed the people I worked for. I wasn't happy in my relationship, so I blamed my boyfriend (at the time). I didn't have enough cash, so I blamed my job, taxes, government, and the price of gas. And you know what all that blame got me? A whole lotta nothing.

When I had a life changing experience and turned my focus on myself, everything started to change for the better. That's when I began to harness my courage and live fearlessly (by the way, courage is not being fearless; it's just not). Courage is feeling the fear but taking the action anyway. Don't think for a second that I don't feel fear, because I sure do.

Actually, if you are not feeling fear on a regular basis (small or big), then you are living too small. You are not going for it. And living fearlessly, like every change in life, happens on a spectrum. You do not go from living in fear to blowing through comfort zones on a weekly basis, all overnight. You take steps, baby steps. My personal journey has taken me 19 years so far and I'm still growing and cultivating my fearlessness.

The greatest gift I can give you is one strategy for living fearlessly that will shortcut this process for you, and give you the biggest results with the least amount of time, effort, and discomfort. This is a strategy that my husband and I teach our students in our Relationship Breakthrough Programs & Events as part of our Decision Making Process™.

In any area of your life where you have pain or discomfort and you want more, the key strategy is to seek out someone who is already successfully living the result you want, lean on their comfort zone and take massive action to follow their proven process. This is the ultimate discomfort shortcut to your next comfort zone, the secret that truly successful people know.

Here are a few keys to making this really work for you:

  • Seek out someone who is successfully enjoying the results that you want. Said differently, they are living in your "after" story and you are currently in the "before."
  • Pick someone who is also successfully and repeatedly teaching others to achieve those same results consistently.
  • Follow their step-by-steps, take their programs, read their books, then learn and implement their proven process.
  • If they offer coaching or implementation assistance, take it. When they reach their hand out and offer to pull you right through to your next comfort zone, say "yes."

You still must live fearlessly, because you must say "yes" and you must take action. You are reducing the risk, fear and discomfort by using a proven process, working with a proven expert and surrounding yourself with support and love while you blow through to your next comfort zone.

The great thing is that you are in exactly the right place for this, right this very second. Are you looking around wondering, "what do you mean, Stacey, can you see me?" Relax darling, no I cannot. You are reading Aspire Magazine right now, which means that you have at your fingertips some of the world's greatest experts in all areas of your life.

I'm serious. I've been in personal development for two decades. I am blessed to work with some of the greatest coaches, experts and leaders in the world. I've traveled all over to do that and I've invested multiple six figures to do so.

One of the greatest joys in my life is my family here at Aspire Magazine, led by our fearless publisher and one of my dearest personal friends, Linda Joy. Linda and I get on planes to be together, and I'm thrilled to do so. But, you don't have to because everything you need is right here.

Question #1: Where in your life do you feel unhappy, stuck, frustrated or downright miserable? My hunch is that someone in the pages of this issue of Aspire Magazine is living in the "after" story that you want.

Question #2: Who is it? Read her article, click on her free gift, listen or watch her stuff, go to her website, check out her programs, reach out to her for her step-by-step help. Whatever it is, say "yes" and take massive action.

If you feel the "fear," harness your courage and do it anyway. Remind yourself that this woman has already done it and has taught many other woman to create the same results for themselves. That's what will make it easier, quicker and more effective for you.

Living fearlessly isn't an abstract concept or something big and crazy that happens to "those people," but not to you. Living fearlessly is deciding to feel the fear and take action anyway. I hope our secret strategy to model others and work with an expert will help you to take massive action, get out of your current comfort zone and charge forth into your next one. That's where the solution to every problem you currently have is waiting for you, darling.

So go live fearlessly and surround yourself with love and support on your journey.

P.S. If the area of your life that you are unhappy with is your intimate relationship, then take my hand and let me walk you straight into your next comfort zone. I empower thousands of people each year to transform their intimate relationship, create their unshakable love and unleashed passion, all in a way that your partner does not need to participate in order for this to work for you.

Stacey Martino helps people who feel stuck, frustrated and helpless with the challenges that intimate relationship brings. Through targeted, strategic private coaching, programs and events for her Relationship Transformation™, Relationship Rescue™ and Relationship Transition™ programs, individuals learn to use her proven strategies and tools to create an unshakable love and unleashed passion that lasts a lifetime. Stacey firmly believes that it absolutely does not take two to tango, that one person can significantly shift the dynamics of the relationship. Clients have praised Stacey for helping them to see massive results in record time. Formerly known as "The Ice Princess," Stacey is intimately aware of what it takes to transform oneself to be ready to both give and receive love and passion like you have never experienced before. Download Stacey's free audio program, "How to Transform Your Relationship in Eight Steps" here.

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